OK, so you're still being bugged by this reality thing. Read what this shrink says, and try and relax a little more.

The Healthy, Happy Human Being Wears Many Masks

by Kenneth Gergen
(leading exponent of postmodern psychology)

I believe we must abandon the assumption that normal development equips the individual with a coherent sense of identity. In the richness of human relations, a person receives varied messages about who she is. Parents, friends, lovers, teachers, kin, counselors, acquaintances all behave differently toward us; in each relationship we learn something new about ourselves and, as the relations change, so do the messages. The lessons are seldom connected and they are often inconsistent.

In this light, the value that society places on a coherent identity is unwarranted and possible detrimental. It means that the heterosexual must worry over homosexual leanings, the husband or wife over fantasies of infidelity, the businessman over his drunken sprees, the commune dweller over his materialism. All of us are burdened by the code of coherence, which demands that we ask: How can I be X if I am really Y, its opposite? We should ask instead: What is causing me to be X at this time? We may be justifiably concerned with tendencies that disrupt our preferred modes of living and loving; but we should not be anxious, depressed or disgusted when we find a multitude of interests, potentials and selves.

Which Means …

Relax. You donīt have to make sense all the time.