Movies, TV, and fan-fic make it look like one big pleasure ride, with whips and leather and hot babes at your beck and call. Unfortunately, being in a Dominant/submissive relationship involves much more work, and much less gratuitous sex. Scenes and role playing is enough of a 'kink' for many people to spice up their lives. For those who truly are Masters and slaves, however, the need goes much deeper, and the resulting fulfillments are much greater

A true D/s relationship is not something to be entered into lightly. It's not a game, it's a choice; not a choice about what to do, but rather about what you are. When properly built on trust, responsibility, and understanding, it can be a strong tool for raising up both the Master and the slave. Done wrong, it is abuse and destructive manipulation.