Finding men is very easy.
Finding dirty men is easy
But finding a dirty guy you can trust is a bit more tricky.
This isn't because men are inherently untrustworthy. Boys are. Never trust boys, they're the worst sort of tell-tales. But men are fine — just the usual mixtures of blabber mouths and the trustworthy.
No, women can't trust dirty men, not because of the risk of the men telling-all, but because of the what happens to women if they are found out to be sluts.
Men hate sluts. They think they are cheap and disposable.
Men who are sexually promiscuous (macho sluts) are virile. Women who are sexually promiscuous are whores you don't have to pay for.
Worse, women hate sluts more than men. The word gets passed around, like a virus (see, for example, Fast Girls: sticks, stones and sluts). Once you are identified as a slut, no behaviour is too immoral, no behaviour to unbecoming. You have no virtue, only vice.
Women believe sluts are closet prostitutes. Trading their sexual favours for trinkets, or the high-life, or gold digging divorce settlement / will. Sluts swap their dignity and freedom for a glided cage.
Or women believe sluts are psychologically damaged goods. Inappropriately trading sex for attention and affections. The byproduct of an abusive father and a loveless mother.
And of course, the trouble is, some sluts are closet prostitutes, and some sluts are damaged affection hunters. But it never seems to occur to anyone that most female sluts are just like male sluts. Sexually promiscuous because they like sex.
All of which, of course, is a total bummer for men, who find themselves not being trusted by women — like me — who would love to fuck and be fucked by dirty men.