I am a 32 year old virgin, more by choice and lack of effort (as well as several BAD relationships when I was younger and in college) then anything else. However I decided recently to get a life again and have been amazed at how fast I am connecting with others. However I am wrestling with several inner struggles. Chief among these are the facts I am attracted to girls 18 to 25 and I can not make up my mind, if the moment comes, to tell them the truth about my virginity. In both cases I am afread of looking like a fool, have any advice?

Richard, 32 Male

Hi Richard. You're not alone, many guys do not lose their virginity until later in life. My advice to you is don't lie, just tell the truth about it. I know it SOUNDS easy, but it's hard to do it in reality. But it's the only way - if you lie about it the girls will see straight through you and you will look like even more of a fool.

Be aware that a lot of girls have fantasies about deflowering a virgin guy, so it can be fun for both of you! Just be bold and speak out, you really have nothing to lose.

Good Luck!

Doctor Dan