ASK DAN & LAURA

QUESTION 26

I am married to a man who can't give me sexual intercourse due to being so small in size. Honestly, his cock is only 2 to 2 and 1/2 inches long and hardly ever hard. He only wants me to suck his dick several times daily with no regards to my own sexual needs. With the size of his dick I don't see the point of asking for intercourse {we have tried a few times when he does get hard with no luck} but I am just 30 and am at a loss of what I should do. Any suggestions would be a great help....by the way, I didn't know about his small size before our marriage.

Next, could you offer any suggestions on how I forget about my fetishes because he doesn't want anything to do with them? I am really into getting a lot of pain {blue and black marks, and the whole nine yards}, other women, RL Master & slave, bondage, etc......... I guess maybe you won't have any suggestions for me at all but I thought that I would ask just that same. I thought maybe it would help just to share all of this with someone.

Amanda, 30 F

LAURA SAYS...

Wow, now that's a toughie. First, talk to him about getting you off in other ways, but see, here's the complication: your fetish for pain and bondage reflects on how you like to have sex and get you off. So, the ideal situation is if your husband becomes a "master" of sorts and have you suck him off or use toys on you in the whole scenerio, but if he isn't into that and can't get you off the way that you'd like, then you need to find another solution. Discuss it and maybe find someone that can give you the pleasure that you need is the only solution in my mind, but I don't know how that will affect your marriage, especially if you really love your husband despite his "small penis" - which in fact, I don't believe is that small and I'm talking from experience here having had such a size in my life and no real problems with it after getting over the fact that he's not "hung like a horse," but can satisfy me in every way.

DAN SAYS...

Hmmm yeah......what she said! Amanda, are you telling me that you didn't know he had a small wick before you got married? How? All I can say is, you will have to work with him to find a way to satisfy both your needs. By the sounds of things you are not really that compatible and I can't see how you ended up with him in the first place. But as Laura says, if you really love him then his penis size should not matter, and if he really loves you, then he should be open to your fantasies and fetishes.