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QUESTION 13

I live four doors down from a young girls, she's between 11 and 14 and she has the most incredible body I've ever seen. Recently, she was in her backyard in a tight two-piece bathing suit, and when I saw her in it, I instantly got a hard-on. I have a girlfriend and we have a good sex life, so why
am I so turned on by this jail-bait girl? It is made even more difficult when my girlfriend puts her hair in pig-tails and pretends to be a schoolgirl.

Anonymous

LAURA SAYS...

I don't think that there is anything necessarily "wrong" with what you're feeling - just don't ever really act on it. If you feel as if that is your main focus now and that it really is something you're obsessing on, then you should talk to a professional about it and get some advice/help. But if nothing like that is "wrong" with you, then I don't see much wrong with it, dressing up and PRETENDING is perfectly healthy - I love to dress up in my schoolgril outfit and no one's ever said no to me yet!

DAN SAYS...

Anonymous, your problem is not uncommon. Many guys get turned on by the site of cute young girls, even those that are too young to be sexually active (legally at least). The only time this becomes dangerous is when it becomes your obsession, and you really consider trying to have a sexual relationship with one of them. Don't ever try it, even if you think a young girl is 'coming on to you' - it's against the law and morally wrong, and you WILL pay for it if you do.

Healthy fantasy is fine - you're a lucky man to have a girlfriend who pretends for you and plays up to your fantasies! Enjoy it, but don't let it rule your life.

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