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I've been stuck thinking about this for quite some time and would like to get your opinion about it. I've been with my boyfriend for well over three years (though we've known each other for well over ten years) and we love each other very much and plan to be with each other for, do I dare say, the rest of our lives. I'm a very sexual person and I've gotten him to agree to having a "semi-open" relationship. We've introduced other people into our sex lives, mostly women, and our sex lives, even with just the two of us, have increased greatly and if anything, made us love each other more because of that trust present.

I know that he's been having a good time with these other people because he certainly shows it in bed. We chose to include mostly women, because that way we can both have fun with the other person, but even with another guy, it has been just as intense and enjoyable. So all that is fine, but recently I've started to have this desire to expand my sex life even further and participate in such things as orgies, gang bangs, and wife-swaps...with or without my boyfriend there, though I apparently prefer him present.

At first I was hesitant to tell him because we've never done anything without the other one present or anything on this big of a scale, but this new desire in me for more options was too much and I want to go out and experience it all, sexually speaking.We've talked about it and talked about it, and he agreed that I could do whatever I wanted in these situations, him using the reason that he has no right to tell me what I can and cannot do, but that he himself really didn't want any part of it, though he gives me his full support and "blessing." He even admitted that whenever we had a third person in bed that even though he did enjoy himself, that he would have prefered it with just myself and went along to make me happy.

Now, he didn't say all that because he was some kind of moral saint or anything, but that it was just because of who he is. He's never been the guy that girls had swarmed around and he just feels that I'm the only one he wants and it doesn't feel "right" for himself taking part in something that he feels someone like me, that guys and gals have swarmed around, is more "deserving" for that kind of activities (and he said it in a total sincere and nice way).

So, he has nothing wrong with me exploing the full extent of my sexuality because he knows that he's the only one for me and that he is more than enough to make me happy, but I can't help but feel that something's a little off. I want him to take part of this as well, but part of me feels that what he explained to me is right and there's another part of me that doesn't feel bad or guilty that I want to do this. I've already been to one orgy already with seven other people without my boyfriend and even though he was on my mind, I was really enjoying to moment too much to really care. I was a little nervous when I saw him afterwards, but he was cool about. He had even baked a cake for me with "Congratulations On Your First Orgy" printed in icing on top, which was later smeared on my breasts, so I KNOW that our sex life was going to be nothing short of our usual fantastic sex.

So what's your advice about this? This sure must be unusual, even to you, a guy that doesn't want to join his girl in an orgy! We're positive that whether or not he decides to join that we're still going to have a very strong relationship and nothing's going to change that, but there's still that nagging thought in the back of my head.

Amy, 28 Female USA

Hi Amy! What can I say, every guy is different. It doesn't seem unusual to me that your guy doesn't want to join you in your group activities, however it does concern me that he's ok with you doing it without him. If my wife wanted to go to an orgy I would never let her go on her own, if only to provide protection for her against things that can get out of hand at orgies.

Many guys are reluctant to participate in orgies because of an embarrasment factor, or they may suffer from impotence when forced to perform in front of a lot of people. A lot of male porn stars get that problem on porn sets. Your man obviously feels insecure about it, and you shouldn't push him in any way. He obviously loves you very much, and he seems like a catch that you don't want to lose. However I think that if he is willing to allow you to explore your sexuality, you should find out what really gets HIM off and support him in that too. Remember that love and trust is a two way street.

If you do continue to go to orgies, swings or whatever, please make sure that your man or a trusted friend goes along with you for safety reasons, and ALWAYS practice safe sex. No barebacking, EVER! Let me know how you go.

Love Doctor Dan

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	I've been stuck thinking about this for quite some time and would like to get your opinion about it. I've been with my boyfriend for well over three years (though we've known each other for well over ten years) and we love each other very much and plan to be with each other for, do I dare say, the rest of our lives. I'm a very sexual person and I've gotten him to agree to having a "semi-open" relationship. We've introduced other people into our sex lives, mostly women, and our sex lives, even with just the two of us, have increased greatly and if anything, made us love each other more because of that trust present. I know that he's been having a good time with these other people because he certainly shows it in bed. We chose to include mostly women, because that way we can both have fun with the other person, but even with another guy, it has been just as intense and enjoyable. So all that is fine, but recently I've started to have this desire to expand my sex life even further and participate in such things as orgies, gang bangs, and wife-swaps...with or without my boyfriend there, though I apparently prefer him present. At first I was hesitant to tell him because we've never done anything without the other one present or anything on this big of a scale, but this new desire in me for more options was too much and I want to go out and experience it all, sexually speaking.We've talked about it and talked about it, and he agreed that I could do whatever I wanted in these situations, him using the reason that he has no right to tell me what I can and cannot do, but that he himself really didn't want any part of it, though he gives me his full support and "blessing." He even admitted that whenever we had a third person in bed that even though he did enjoy himself, that he would have prefered it with just myself and went along to make me happy. Now, he didn't say all that because he was some kind of moral saint or anything, but that it was just because of who he is. He's never been the guy that girls had swarmed around and he just feels that I'm the only one he wants and it doesn't feel "right" for himself taking part in something that he feels someone like me, that guys and gals have swarmed around, is more "deserving" for that kind of activities (and he said it in a total sincere and nice way). So, he has nothing wrong with me exploing the full extent of my sexuality because he knows that he's the only one for me and that he is more than enough to make me happy, but I can't help but feel that something's a little off. I want him to take part of this as well, but part of me feels that what he explained to me is right and there's another part of me that doesn't feel bad or guilty that I want to do this. I've already been to one orgy already with seven other people without my boyfriend and even though he was on my mind, I was really enjoying to moment too much to really care. I was a little nervous when I saw him afterwards, but he was cool about. He had even baked a cake for me with "Congratulations On Your First Orgy" printed in icing on top, which was later smeared on my breasts, so I KNOW that our sex life was going to be nothing short of our usual fantastic sex. So what's your advice about this? This sure must be unusual, even to you, a guy that doesn't want to join his girl in an orgy! We're positive that whether or not he decides to join that we're still going to have a very strong relationship and nothing's going to change that, but there's still that nagging thought in the back of my head. Amy, 28 Female USA Hi Amy! What can I say, every guy is different. It doesn't seem unusual to me that your guy doesn't want to join you in your group activities, however it does concern me that he's ok with you doing it without him. If my wife wanted to go to an orgy I would never let her go on her own, if only to provide protection for her against things that can get out of hand at orgies. Many guys are reluctant to participate in orgies because of an embarrasment factor, or they may suffer from impotence when forced to perform in front of a lot of people. A lot of male porn stars get that problem on porn sets. Your man obviously feels insecure about it, and you shouldn't push him in any way. He obviously loves you very much, and he seems like a catch that you don't want to lose. However I think that if he is willing to allow you to explore your sexuality, you should find out what really gets HIM off and support him in that too. Remember that love and trust is a two way street. If you do continue to go to orgies, swings or whatever, please make sure that your man or a trusted friend goes along with you for safety reasons, and ALWAYS practice safe sex. No barebacking, EVER! Let me know how you go. *Love Doctor Dan*