Author: Mr.Ocontrol
Title: Building passion for women
Keywords: Mf Female Orgasm Denial




Building passion for women

I know, strange title, however bare with me for just a bit and I will hopefully build a case for how this can and does work.  Think about your sex life for just a bit, after the initial beginning romance of new love / lust starts to wear a bit thin, the enthusiasm for sex also begins to do the same for many.  What if you could rebuild not only that strong desire to enjoy sex, but make it even better than before, would you be interested in giving it a try?  If you are willing to make just a few changes, you will be amazed at how much pleasure you could have, and how much you were missing before.  Now be forewarned, this is not an instant jump into bed and see the difference tonight, however if you are willing to try for say sixty to ninety days, in the end you will wonder why no one told you sooner.  The bond between you and your partner will become much stronger, the pleasure you feel being with your partner will increase by a magnitude of at least two fold, and you will find yourself ready and not only willing but longing for time together daily.  Now you may be thinking sure, what a load of crap, if something this good worked why would it not have been discussed before now.  For one, because there is no money to be made by laying out the information to make such pleasure possible between loving partners.  You do not need any special potions, or toys to make this work.  Second, most people are not willing to give something a try for the few weeks it takes to make this work.  This takes not only patience to allow time for your body to adjust and learn what can be, but also requires trust in each other, trust in your lover, trust that your needs and desires will be taken care of.  However this can only happen if you are willing to place your pleasure in the hands of another.  

Now broaching this subject with your lover can be a bit difficult for some, however I think most would be more than willing.  For many women, planning an evening to begin can be the most difficult part, however again with some forethought this taking time to plan things out can be make it even better.  

To begin with, if you're going through a bit of a rough spot where you haven't been together for a while, this can be an amazing point to begin.  The biggest sticking point for most ladies though is overcoming the thought of how things must begin.  For this to work, you will need to do just the opposite of what your mind and body is telling you.  To allow yourself and your lover to reach the greatest possible heights of pleasure and desire, you will need to be willing to set aside your immediate release of pleasure for just a few days.  What! You say.  Trust me, it will make all the difference, that's part of why you haven't read about this before.  Everyone wants to experience pleasure and fulfillment now.  Again I can tell you if you can wait just a few days, put aside what you know to be true, and be willing to step out into the unknown and give this a try, you'll be totally amazed at what will happen.  

Now to explain what must take place to make this exercise in trust and intimacy work for you.  First, again there must be trust, trust that what I am telling you will work, and even more importantly, trust in your partner.  For many women, leaving a note for your lover is the easiest way to begin.  Just explain that you want to try something that has the potential to greatly enhance your sexual pleasure, passion, and intimacy.  Tell your lover for this to work you will be placing yourself into their hands and need their commitment to help you through the first few weeks as this will be the most difficult part.  At this point you will have your lovers attention and you need simply begin to explain what you would like to try.  I would venture to say 99% of the men out there would be more than willing to give this a try.  

Imagine the following, it will explain what I have been discussing as well as lay out what can happen.



To begin: Having read about this enhanced pleasure Susan decides she wants to give this a try.  Having had a long week of work without much time or thought about their sex life, she has just dropped into bed going to sleep, not needing, wanting, or even desiring a physical relationship with her husband.  However after stumbling across an article online earlier in the week, she has been turning this over in her mind for several days now.  Getting home early today, she knows it will be several hours before her husband gets home.  Having contacted her mother earlier, the children are with their grandparents for the weekend.  First taking time to set out some wine and light snacks in their bedroom, she begins to get things prepared for tonight.  After getting their bed ready, she decides it would be better to take a bath before writing a letter to her husband, knowing once she gets started on the letter her body will begin to react, and as was explained in the article she read earlier, that is not something she should try to wash away now that the evening is about to begin. 

Having prepared everything else, Susan now lights a few candles in their room, as well as the bathroom.  First taking time to shower, she decides to also trim herself.  Having always been raised to be modest, she feels tonight it would somehow be alright to be more exposed than ever.  Nervously she begins to remove her womanly cover, exposing her vulva more than at any time since she began to grow hair.  Leaving just a tiny patch of hair she begins to worry about what James may think, about if this is taking things too far, about.... Finally remembering that everything she has ever read says most men love this look, she begins to relax a bit. 

Drying herself, she again remembers the warning not to use deodorant or sprays over her body due to the bad taste they can leave, however she can't resist using just a bit under her arms.  After getting herself dried she again forgoes the usual makeup for just a bit of lip gloss, relying instead on her now building passion for everything else.  Choosing an easy to remove, yet still elegant lite covering she decides it's time to write her letters.

Her first note left on the front door:

Dear James

I have a surprise for you, it is a good one...  The kids are with mom for the weekend.  I'm in our room waiting for you, however before you come back, please use the other bathroom to shower and get ready, after your shower, please read the letter on the kitchen table, then come to our room

Love Susan


Now, for the more sensuous note:

James, My one true love

I know this is a bit different, unlike anything I've done before, but I want this to be a special evening, one we can both look back on, remembering how wonderful life together can be.  I do realize lately that our sex life has not been what you have been wanting, with work and the children it's just been difficult getting into the mood to want to do anything more than just drop into bed.  For that I'm sorry, and hope this evening can be just the start of a rebuilding of passion for the two of us.  There is something though that I will desperately need your help with in this area.  After doing some research into building passion for women, I've come across some information that seems worth a try.  For a long time now I've wanted things to be better for you, for us, in this area, but haven't known how to begin.  Now I have an idea that if it works will be more than worth the effort, however I need you to know up front that it scares me, that is to say I am going to be placing even more of myself into your hands, in ways that before I never would have thought possible.  Tonight, I want your to know to begin with that I need you, my body needs you, my heart needs you.  However there is something I will need your help with to make this work.  For at least the next few weeks I am asking you to take a bit of extra time to take me to the very edge of my orgasm at least a couple times before your begin to enter my body.  

Please, don't take me wrong, you feel wonderful whenever we make love, it's just that I need to give you something I've never offered anyone else before.  Instead of taking me to orgasm tonight, I'm asking that whatever happens you will gently remind me that I must try not to allow orgasm to overtake me.  I know this sounds strange, being the kind-hearted lover that you have always been it may be difficult for you to say no as well.  But please, I'm asking for your help in this, it's not that I don't want to feel that pleasure, but that for me to be the lover you want, I need you to take control of my pleasure.  What I'm asking is that if I'm willing to give myself to you and if you would like me to need you inside me, that you would begin allowing me to cum only when you know I'm ready.  Now knowing you, and myself, I already know I'm ready now, but this must take place no more than once every few weeks.  I'm not talking about us making love only once during this time, but that I need you to help me give you my passion in such a way that I learn to surrender myself so my pleasure is only fulfilled through your orgasm the majority of the time.  Yes, it scares me to ask this of you, knowing I still desperately need to feel the pleasure of orgasm overtaking my body, however from what I've read, keeping the woman on edge, only allowing one or two orgasms each month, even while still maintaining an active relationship will not only flip the switch igniting the female passion, but if done with a loving partner will also build a stronger bond as the pleasure for both parties involved then comes only when they are together.  This also allows the female, no matter how strong she normally may be to be able to enjoy a submissive side that many are afraid to even approach.  

For your part if I ask you to make me cum, if I beg you, even if I cry, I need you to just hold me, not only keeping me on that edge, but pressing me toward release while reminding me to remain just this side of orgasm.  As for my part, I will try to take some of the burden from you in asking you not to make me cum, or not to let me cum, that way I can still plead with you, beg you, cry, and know you are truly giving me what I am asking for.  

You must know by now how very much I trust you, and how I feel about our love for one another.  I'm placing my desire and my pleasure into your hands and asking that you to please protect and care for what I'm offering you.  I never before wanted to give so much of myself in such a personal way, but now, need to know what it's like, to learn the pleasure of giving myself in this way, to know the longing, the desire, the need, and the desperation of being ready to cry for my orgasm, all the while knowing it will only be given when you know the time is right.  Please, and I'll only ask this one time, please take care of me, of my desires, of my needs, but also please be sure I ache for you before allowing my pleasure.  I need to make a commitment to this, and need you to hold me to it.  For now, I'm asking you to hold me to this for at lease the next 90 days.  I know I'll struggle with this, I may even get upset, but I promise not to give myself pleasure or release without your express permission, and only ask that you help me in this time.  

Love, Susan

Now, for a moment, think about what she just offered.  Susan, loving her husband, wanting to make their relationship better, more fulfilling, even more pleasurable to both of them has just ask her husband, her lover, her best friend, to enjoy her body, her pleasure, her desire, her desperation, and has even taken it one big step further by surrendering her very orgasm to his control.  She has done this knowing much of the time she will be left in a highly aroused state, with her body not only primed for orgasm, but pushed well beyond where she could have enjoyed her fulfillment of pleasure.  She has just placed her need for that most wonderful pleasure behind the desire she has to develop a relationship with her lover so together they can gain something that goes well beyond the instant gratification of her orgasm, building toward an even more intimate moment.  This act of surrender on her part will help her to completely surrendered herself, her body, and her pleasure to her lover.  Now when he decides the time is right they can experience what happens when her fountains of ecstasy are finally released and together they feel her flower of femininity quivering with joy after she has again received his eruption of rapture within her body.  As difficult as it is to put your needs and desires aside to find this pleasure, it is even more wonderful and fulfilling once you finally learn to let go, to give yourself in this way.  If the woman is able to totally relinquish control of her orgasm placing it instead willingly into the care of her lover, providing he is not only caring but attentive to her needs, they will both begin to experience a closeness and bond that is way beyond that of two people having sex.  

The most difficult part for the woman is getting past the "But I wan to cum too" stage and realizing there is a much deeper feeling that can only be found through the female submissively surrendering of herself.  And for you guys, if you look past the animalistic quickie, at the deeper level of what is happening each time she allows you to make love to her you will begin to see just what is actually being offered.   If you truly think about it, in a loving relationship where your lady, your lover, your wife invites you into her body, she is actually asking you to become a part of her.  When you ejaculate into her body, you are actually leaving part of yourself within her.  The mixture of seminal fluid and sperm, even when it doesn't impregnate her, still work their way deep into her body, being absorbed deep withing her core.  And moreover for those of you wishing to become pregnant, the pelvic congestion she is experiencing due to her heightened arousal and the denial of her orgasm allows her vaginal canal to remain in a distended state for a much longer period of time allowing an even greater chance for the semen to find their way into her cervix.  And if this is not a sufficient list of benefits multiple studies have found that in a monogamous relationship a constant supply of fresh semen in the vagina (as in at least every other day) being absorbed by the female not only help stabilize emotional and chemical fluctuations, but have also been shown to help prevent certain cervical problems.  A few studies have even shown that once the female body becomes accustom to the chemical composition of her mates semen her body actually begins to become somewhat addicted to the presence of theses compounds, to the extent that abruptly halting the relationship can cause withdraw symptoms in extreme cases.  It seems the deeper we look into the way the body works, the male and female relationship bonding can be seen to be not only as love in the psychological sense but we can now see there is even a physiological bonding to the pair as well.  

Finally think about where this could lead.  Having a woman giving herself in this way, knowing she may only experience an orgasm once or twice a month, even though she is feeling her lover explode with pleasure within her body on a daily basis.  She now must learn to enjoy the pleasure of the build up, of how excited she is, of how her body is wanting to be filled, and how wonderful it can be to just concentrate and enjoy the feeling of her man flooding her insides each night.  How exciting would it be, not knowing when you would be told to have your orgasm, only knowing that it may happen sometime this month.  Leaving the option open to be told to cum multiple times over several days should your lover so desire, and knowing that you could even be ask to go five or even six weeks without experiencing your orgasm.  The possibilities are endless, the reactions even more interesting, going from an unexpected orgasm forced from your body exploding with such force your literally shake uncontrollably from head to toe, to even allowing yourself to be tied down and pushed to multiple releases where you loose consciousness, to being edged and told to cum while your lover continues to move within you, absorbing some of your pleasure for themselves. 

Although it may sound like your giving something up, in reality, you will be gaining so much more.  Yes, you may be asked to give up a few quick orgasms, however, in do so you will be experiencing a pleasure that most never realize is even there.  You will be able to taste the deeper passion that can be ignited within the female body, on that once set ablaze and continue to build, and when the release of this passion finally happens, well all I can say is hold on and enjoy the moment.  Once you become accustomed to this deeper level of what can be, you will likely never want to return to what was.  For most, I think they find trying to go back after learning how things can feel leaves them feeling empty, like they were robbed of what a life of love can feel like.  


Now, would you ladies consider giving this a try.  If so, please tell me not only what you think, but how it works out in the end.  If not, what would prevent you from trying?  If anyone is willing, keeping an online diary of your life while beginning this experience would be wonderful.  Finally, how do you think this should continue, how should it work out, do you want to read more?  For further discussion, please feel free to drop me a note at mr.ocontrol at yahoo dot com 

