Re: Easiest way to break a girl into this fetish...advice requested(esp from women)
13-Dec-98 16:37:36

Hey Jazz,

Every woman is different yet they are all the same, too. I dare not imply that I know it all or even pretend to know how to explain how to "break a girl into this fetish."

Now, after having said that, one must admit that I have had some successful dealings with having to approach a woman and ask her to crush things for me. Not only for my pleasure, but for everyone in this community, too. . . hehehehe

In my personal life, I'd never consider having a relationship with a woman without sharing my love for both ends of her legs. I could not conceive of the possibility to keep her in the dark about such a wonderful experience. Nor, could I not let her tell me about hers as well.

So, as soon as there has been interest (from both parties) I let it be known that her feet are a very important part of her and I am compelled to give special attention to her. Rarely get an argument from any of them turning down a real session of foot reflexology. :))

Most women I have dated never had any special attention given to their feet from any man, and most have found it unusual but harmless. Too much attention to their feet and they have been turned off by it. Balance is important to them, in my opinion. Experience has taught me to let her share in it, instead of overwhelming her with me doing "too much" for her.

I have been pleasantly surprised at just how creative some women can be if given the space and time to see how much fun they can have with you at their feet. I don't know how many guys get footjobs on their first date, but it isn't impossible.

When I see an attractive woman, well-dressed and wearing a nice pair of shoes, I'll make it a point to offer her a genuine compliment as to her appearance as well as her choice of footwear--if I am close enough to address her without making a scene. Without a doubt, this opens the door, immediately.

Many of the models (I've had do videos) began with that opening compliment from me. Pedicured feet with a good, fresh coat of nail polish. . . takes you one step closer to finding yourself at her feet--if you take the calm initiative to (genuinely) acknowledge how beautifully maintained her feet are--as well as the rest of her, she will be very receptive to your kindness.

By this time, she has figured you out to be a "leg man," at least, and quite possibly hot after her heels, at most. . . (pun intended) :)) If she is open-minded and cool, you are in--if she is inhibited, the least bit narrow, or too conventional, you're out--no matter what you say or do. And there are many those women to choose from.

I have dated women that I'd opened myself up to completely, only to find that they had no real interest in sharing in the enjoyment of their feet, but only used their feet as a means of manipulation to "get" what they wanted. That is, their self-serving security. That sucked!

You definitely leave yourself wide-open when you share your deepest desires of the heart. But it is a chance we all must take in the quest for a meaningful relationship, where you do not have to suppress your strongest desire to be under your "sole" mate's feet--in the comfort and privacy of your home.

Starting out with the "most" acceptable is a lot like seeing how deep the water is, before jumping in--head first. Making it seem that she could tolerate our fetish up to a point of intolerance, leads me to believe that she is only willing to indulge you to a point--and indulgence is not the point.

This is a tough one. . . Sharing is as important to her as it is to you. If you don't explore her deepest desires, then the one-sided approach will kill the relationship anyway. Get her take on what she is looking for in a relationship. Drag it out of her before you set her spinning with your desires... :))

I dated a girl back in the late 80's (in Dallas TX) that I will never forget. This is our first date, mind you. She and I went to a nice restaurant for dinner and coctails. I had given her the compliments directed at her attire as well as the black stockings and patent leather pumps she'd worn for the evening out on the town.

After some fine dining, we lingered at the table toasting to an incredible dinner and the romantic setting. We chatted and the conversation turned to relationship issues and some sex-related topics. I asked her directly about some of the things she looked for when being pleased as well as any quirks or kinky stuff she has ever done or wanted to do.

I'm not sure that I was ready for her reply, and if someone would have snapped a picture of me the exact moment she replied, it would have truly been a "Kodak moment" for sure! ! !

Giving her the opportunity to let me in to her "kinky" desires made for a wonderful relationship until she moved away to Georgia. . . or was it Missouri? I can't seem to remember that part.

Ohhhhhh, you want to know what her desires were? If this is not testament and proof-positive as to the importance of getting her involved in the process of "sharing" kinks. . . nothing ever will. You ready for this? She wanted to suck toes while having hers kissed, sucked, and worshipped at the same time.

As you may suspect, I didn't have to have my arm twisted to fulfill that one. The date ended at my home, where all of her wildest dreams were completely and toEtally satisfied! We dated for almost 2 years and each time she kicked her sexy shoes off, I knew what she wanted. Communication can be delightful!

This is a true and honest story, Jazz. . . Her name is Susan, and being a nurse meant that she was on her pretty feet all day. Somewhere out there is some happy dewd sucking on some very pretty's woman's toes--at her request while she is returning the favor, too.

The key (to me) is getting your woman involved in the process and sharing with you what *she* likes FIRST! Then you will be able to determine what your chances are for breaking the ice.

Best regards,

Getsmart