Subject:     Definitions 
Story Codes: nosex
Date:        April 25, 2012
Author:      Kelly <pghpa_girl@yahoo.com>

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Summary:

Slut or whore?  Fucking or making love?  Underage or preteen?  Just a few 
words that are sometimes interchanged without thought yet can have widely 
varying meanings and convey entirely different messages.  I really don’t care 
what other people say these words and phrases mean, I just want people to 
understand what I mean when I use them.

Note that this is one of my shorter articles but I thought it was important 
enough to warrant being treated on its own.

Table of Contents
   Chapter 1 - Words Matter
   Chapter 2 - Definitions
   Chapter 3 - Slut vs. Whore
   Chapter 4 - Fucking vs. Making Love


Chapter 1 - Words Matter
========================

“Stick and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.”
- anonymous

Yeah right, what a bunch of crap!  Words DO hurt and in this age of on-line 
messaging, e-mail, social media and so forth, written words are being used 
more and more to convey our thoughts and feelings in place of face-to-face 
communications.  Anyone versed in social interactions will tell you that in 
communicating, what you SAY is only a small part of the message.  It’s your 
expressions, tone of voice, body language, etc. that convey the REAL message.

I face this all the time with my diary.  As hard as I try to me expressive 
and precise, people are always reading into what I say using their own 
opinions and viewpoints which often are not at all what I was trying to get 
across.  I publish some of the hate mail I get just to show what people say 
to me, often because they totally take me wrong and misunderstand my true 
intent.

So yes, words DO matter which is why I decided to publish this little 
article.  While it’s woefully inadequate, at least it might help people 
understand me a little better when they read the other articles I have 
written.  Something as simple as me saying I was fucked by somebody can be 
taken totally out of context unless you recognize to me, that’s just an 
everyday shorthand way of saying we had sex.  Nothing obscene is intended but 
yet people have come back to me and chastised me for swearing and using four 
letter words.

I welcome any feedback from anyone including any suggestions for additions to 
my list!


Chapter 2 - Definitions
=======================

These are words or phrases that are used and often misunderstood.  I am sure 
others have their own definitions, but this is what I mean when I use them.

Sex: The penetration, however slight, of a female vagina by a male penis.  
Even if the hymen remains intact or not all of the dick gets in the  pussy, 
it's still sex.  Once ANY part of a dick is in her, even if  it's just the 
very tip, it's as good as ALL in.  Thus a girl can have an intact hymen but 
NOT be a virgin.

Family: The members of your immediate family out to and including first 
cousins, whether by blood OR marriage.

Adultery: When a married person has sex with someone not in their family (as 
defined above) with the intent of cheating on their spouse.  Thus it is the 
INTENT that defines adultery, not the act of having sex.  It’s important to 
note that you can't commit adultery unless you're married.  If you're single 
and have sex with a married partner, THEY are the ones potentially committing 
adultery, not you.

Incest: The act of sex between members of the same family.  Thus by this 
definition, whether or not an act of sex constitutes "incest" is determined 
by the family relationship between the partners, not just their DNA.  For 
example, sex between a girl and her brother-in-law is still incest, even 
though we come from different blood.  Sex that qualifies as "incest" is 
between family members and thus is NOT adultery, regardless of the intent.  

Oral "Sex": At its core, sex is fundamentally a reproductive act (even though 
most of the time that isn't the intended purpose).  Thus by definition, oral 
"sex" is NOT sex.  Because it’s NOT sex, engaging in oral "sex" cannot ever 
be considered adultery or incest.  Note that by using the same logic, anal 
"sex" is not sex either. 

Virgin: Someone who has never engaged in sex.  Note that this definition has 
nothing to do with the status of a girl's hymen.  Many girls rupture their 
hymens through sports, masturbation or other activities but they are still 
virgins as they haven't had sex.  Also, just because a man doesn't penetrate 
a girl enough to break her hymen doesn't mean it wasn't sex.  If so much as 
the tip of a cock penetrates, then virginity is lost. 

Underage: A general term for anyone under the age of eighteen.  I realize 
that "age of consent" varies between states but for simplicity, I just use 
eighteen.

Preteen: Ages 10, 11 and 12.

Child:   Ages 8 or 9 years old.  


Chapter 3 - Slut vs. Whore
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These two words depend mostly on who says them - me, women, or men.  Here is 
how I deal with these two provocative terms:

First, If the shoe fits...  Yes, I AM a slut and I’m proud to be one.  The 
reason that I'm so proud is because to me being a slut means that other 
people find me sexually attractive and realize that I'm not afraid to take 
advantage of it.  When a guy dates me, knowing that I have a reputation as a 
slut he has certain expectation but he can't be sure.  Just because I blow 
most guys on the first date doesn't mean he's guaranteed anything.  I am in 
total control and can go as far - or not as far, as I want depending on 
things go.  I owe the guy nothing - it's what I want that counts.

In contrast, when a guy is with a whore he knows what he’s going to get and 
he expects to get it.  As in any transaction he should get what he pays for 
and nothing more.  A whore can never tease like a slut because with her a guy 
knows he’s getting it sooner or later.  

Some girls try to have their cake and eat it too.  What I mean is they want 
the thrill of having a reputation as a slut but not have to put out.  Such 
girls are known as cockteasers and I have no respect for them.  I worked hard 
for my reputation in school and it pissed me off to see some little princess 
think she could dress the part but not have to follow through.

In short, whores SELL their bodies to please the man.  Sluts USE their bodies 
to please themselves.  (Cockteasers are just stupid bitches.)

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In general, I think most guys use these terms about the same as me.  For 
example, if a guy calls me a whore then I take it as something bad and 
disrespectful.  Interestingly, usually I get that response when I DON'T put 
out and the guy is mad at me.  Well, he needs to keep in mind that I wouldn't 
have gone out with him in the first place if I hadn’t figured that I might 
want to do something with him so if nothing happened or it was less than 
expected then guess whose fault it must have been?

I love it when a guy calls me a slut as that tells me he finds me sexy and 
desirable.  Not only that, but it tells me that he thinks I'll put out for 
him if he can get me to go out which means I've got him wrapped around my 
finger.  Any guy who sees me as a slut will do about anything I ask in hopes 
of getting between my legs.  Of course he has no idea that the odds are that 
he won't (BJ... almost a given, sex... a long shot) but it’s usually not for 
lack of trying.

If a guy calls me a cockteaser, that's as bad as calling me a whore, maybe 
even worse.  At least a whore has principles.  Cockteasers have nor morals or 
ethics and deserve what they get.  Sure I tease guys but if they play along 
and give me what I want then sooner or later they'll likely get what they 
want.  If they don’t they only have to look in the mirror to see who’s at 
fault.

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When a woman calls another woman a slut or a whore, it's a whole different 
ballgame when compared to men.  As a rule, for a woman these terms are 
interchangeable assuming they aren’t your friend and just teasing you.  They 
are almost always meant as slurs and intended to be degrading and show their 
contempt.  No woman has ever watched TV with her husband and called one of 
the female actors a slut or a whore and meant it as a compliment!

As I mentioned, sometime women use it to tease one another which is 
different.  Then there are those time when they use it as a technical term in 
which case there’s no ill intent.  For example, my cousin worked for years as 
an escort/prostitute.  When I call her a whore I am simply using as crude 
term that applies to her.  It was her profession, no different than if I 
called her a secretary or waitress if those were her specialties.


Chapter 4 - Fucking vs. Making Love
===================================

This comparison is so important that I dedicated an entire article on it so 
I'll just summarize it here.

Fucking is simply another word for “having sex”, “doing it” or other cute 
euphemisms for the act of sex.  When I use it I do not intend anything nasty 
or pornographic, it’s just an easy way to say what is happening.  Fucking IS 
not oral sex, blowjobs, etc. - see the definitions in the earlier chapter.

Making love is special and refers to sex between two people that expresses 
their love.  While fucking can still be used to refer to an act of love, 
making love requires the type of relationship that typically only exists 
between a man and a wife.  No act of incest (at least incest as it SHOULD be 
practiced) can be called making love because it is simply a term for an act 
of sex between two people who are related, not that they are lovers.

For example, even though I love having sex with my father and I treasure 
every moment, I am NOT his lover.  I can never be anything more than his 
daughter and he my father.  Since I can never be my father’s lover (that 
would be weird at best, perverted at worst), he fucks me.  There’s nothing 
wrong with that and by no means do I mean to denigrate what we do, it’s just 
the way it is when a father and daughter have a healthy sexual relationship.

In contrast, my husband makes love to me.  Steve is the ONLY man ever to do 
so and if we stay true to our wedding vows, he will be the only man that 
will.  I don't consider having sex with other men to be adultery because they 
only fuck me.  IF someday I ever felt that I was making love to a man other 
than my husband, then I feel I would be breaking a commandment and committing 
adultery.  Who knows what the future may bring but I NEVER want to EVER 
commit adultery!

THE END
