Subject:     Fucking vs. Making Love 
Story Codes: MF inc father mother daughter 
Date:        April 24, 2012 
Author:      Kelly <pghpa_girl@yahoo.com>

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Summary:

"Fuck me."

Only two words, one syllable apiece, simple and direct; yet I can't think of 
any other two words I can say to a guy that have more impact than these! 

It seems odd to me that many people consider "fuck" to be an offensive word 
in "normal" conversation but erotic if it's used during sex.  While I don't 
normally use it as a curse word, I DO use the word "fuck" a LOT when talking 
about sex which seems to disturb some people who view it as the proverbial 
"four letter word".  Because of the stigma associated with using the word 
"fuck", many people use euphemisms like "having sex", "making love", "doing 
it", etc. which just seems sort of silly to me.  As George Carlin once said, 
"Shoot is shit with two O's."

In the Bible, there are three words for what we call "love": Agape - charity 
or caring for someone else as yourself, phileo - brotherly love, and eros - 
sexual love.  Just as people confuse the single English translation where 
"love" is used for all three, so it is when it comes to the word "sex" for 
me.  Just as "love" has very distinct yet different connotations, so too for 
me there are two very distinct categories when describing sex. namely 
"fucking" and "making love". 

In my vocabulary, when I use the word "fuck" it means having sex for the 
purpose of personal gratification.  Thus "fucking" is how I would describe my 
sexual relationship with almost every person I've been with starting with my 
first boyfriend.  For example, when I go out on a date and have sex with 
someone, I'm not doing it specifically to please them or satisfy THEIR needs.  
After all, I'm not some kind of charity sex whore! The reason I like to be 
"fucked" is because it satisfies MY needs - period.  Naturally I usually get 
fucked better when my partner's needs and feelings are satisfied as well and 
so there is a selfish motive for fulfilling their needs as well.  Fucking 
doesn't require love or personal commitments, it's all about personal 
enjoyment.

Before I forget, while it may seem to be a minor point to some people, I 
prefer to make a distinction between fucking someone and being fucked BY 
someone.  The difference lies in who is the aggressor and/or being dominant.  
By definition, fucking is NEVER something that is shared equally - someone is 
always dominate to some degree.  Thus when I say, "I fucked so-and-so", it 
means I was the one who either initiated it or was the dominate person.  If I 
say, "I was fucked by so-and-so", then it means I allowed the other person to 
take the lead.

Notice I said "allowed"... Anyone who knows anything about me knows that I 
always need to be in control when involved in a sexual situation.  There may 
be times when I will let the other person THINK that they're in control but 
in reality, that's never the case or at least it isn't if I have anything to 
say about it.  I guess that's why I don't get into bondage or other fetishes 
like that.

On the opposite side of the sexual spectrum from fucking is "making love".   
Whereas "fucking" is all about personal self-satisfaction, "making love" is 
all about sharing and pleasing the other person.  It may surprise some people 
when I say this, but I've NEVER made love with ANYONE to date, not even my 
father (although that is a more complicated scenario).  In fact, I don't 
expect that I will until I meet the man who will be my husband.  Thus my 
description of making love is based on how I perceive it to be, not how I've 
experienced it.

Making love is when two people are truly in love with each other as equal 
partners, willing to share themselves with each other and commit their lives 
to one another.

Hmmm, sounds like marriage!.

When I say "love", I'm speaking of the emotional feelings between two lovers 
which is vastly different from two people loving each other (such as in the 
case of a father loving his daughter and she loving him - they love each 
other but not as lovers).  Of course when making love there is an element of 
personal gratification, but at the same time your partner's needs are of at 
least EQUAL concern.  Neither partner is "in control" which follows the 
natural order of life where a wife should submit to her husband as described 
in the Bible - an often misquoted verse from the Book of Ephesians which was 
intended to describe a loving relationship, not a submissive or dominating 
one when taken in the context of today's perceptions and definitions.

For the vast majority of people, "fucking" or "making love" are the only two 
phrases needed to categorize their sexual relationships.  Of course other 
terms can still be used for variety; but when pressed, every sexual act for 
the average person can usually be pigeon-holed into one of these two 
categories.

For a small minority of fortunate people, including myself, there is a sub- 
category of sex known as "incest".  Typically, incest is known as sex between 
a parent and their child although other family member may be involved.  The 
reason I call incest a "sub-category is because depending on the 
relationships involved, it is similar to either fucking or making love but 
unique in a special way.

Incest involving a parent and child is about as close to "making love" as sex 
can be without actually being that.  No child should ever be considered a 
"lover" with their parent.  The intimacy of "making love" can never be fully 
achieved between family members but at the same time, this is why incest is 
so special as it as close as they CAN be, an intimacy that could never be 
achieved without sex.

Incest between family members such as an uncle and niece is still intimate 
but closer to fucking than making love.  Just as sex between a parent and 
child brings them close to making love, so too does sex between family 
members elevate sex above simple "fucking".

This to make things easier, I always refer to incestual sex as "fucking" but 
keep in mind what I really mean when you read my diary stories.

Note that there is one thing that does NOT come into play in either fucking 
or making love - submission.  Again, I need to emphasize that this applies to 
me as there are people out there who are into all sorts of kinky stuff but I 
am not talking about weird or kinky perversions here.  I NEVER submit myself 
to anyone when I'm being fucked.  There are times when I may PRETEND to be 
submissive and in many cases the guy may not even realize that I'm faking it, 
but there is no way I would ever actually submit myself to anyone who just 
fucks me.  I'm not into anything that kinky so I wouldn't give myself to 
someone I'm having sex when I'm seeking only my own personal satisfaction! I 
value myself as a person too much and have enough self-esteem that I never 
feel the need to lower myself to that level just to get fucked.

On the other hand, making love has nothing to do with submission as each 
person is an equal partner in the relationship.  One may take the lead but 
that does mean the other has submitted in any way.  I will submit to my 
husband's biblical AUTHORITY but I will never submit myself to HIM.  Besides, 
if my husband truly loves me then he would never want me to submit myself to 
him in the first place.   My intention is to be his caring and loving wife, 
not his slut, his whore, nor his slave. 

Now that you understand how I feel about submission, this sets the stage for 
a deeper discussion of parent-child incest.  I can’t emphasize this enough.   
Despite all the male fantasies and porn crap that is out there regarding 
father- daughter relationships, I am NOT my father's lover nor would I ever 
want to be.  I can never be his equal in a relationship and thus I can never 
"make love" with him.  At the same time, I do not let him fuck me for my own 
personal satisfaction.  In this ONE special and unique case, I submit myself 
to him for his gratification.

Now to be sure, my father IS a man and when he fucks me I enjoy it just as I 
would being fucked by any other man.  The key factor is that I am NOT the one 
in control, but instead I give myself totally to my dad which, in my opinion 
at least, is what ANY daughter should do for her father if she truly loves 
him.   Since it is HIS pleasure and needs I am concerned about, not mine, 
although I still refer sex with my father as "fucking", the key word in this 
one special case is "submission".   My father understands that I am his 
whenever he wants me and that I trust and respect him enough to surrender 
myself completely to him. 

Obviously, it's physically impossible for me to submit myself to my mother in 
the same manner that I do to my dad.  When I feel my dad's cock slip inside 
of me and then later when he cums in me, in addition to the feelings of love 
and security resulting from having my own father literally "mating" me, there 
is also an element of domination and submission that only a male can have 
over me - that only my father can do to me.

A quick word about sex with my mother.  I don't talk about sex with her 
nearly as much as with my dad in large part because we do it so much less. As 
any girl who has tried it will attest, there is something about sex between 
women that is special beyond what words can describe.  When those women are 
mother and daughter, it elevates their emotions to an even higher plane of 
sexuality that defies any description.

Even though it lacks the physical bond I have with my dad, sex with my mom is 
as close to "making love" as I can imagine sex being without actually being a 
husband and wife.   With my father, I'm ALWAYS his daughter and there is 
NEVER any blurring of those lines.  A number of people have asked me if I had 
ever wanted to bear my father's child.  Well, the very concept totally 
repulses me.   Ugh, how sickening and perverted would THAT be? With my mom 
though, it is so different and all I can only leave it to your imagination at 
this point to try and understand what it is like when we're together.  All I 
can say is while I'm still her daughter, somehow I feel like her lover as 
well.  I probably get fucked by my dad twenty times or more for every time 
I'm with my mom but somehow it manages to equal out emotionally 

So there you have it - all forms of sex for me fall into the categories of 
either self-satisfaction, sharing, or submission.  Because I'm never been 
married, I can't write about sex with my husband so in all my stories 
(including those involving my parents and relatives) I usually refer to sex 
as "fucking".   I hope this makes it easier for you to understand what I mean 
when I say it and not be offended that I am saying something "potty mouthed".

THE END 
