Sex Can Be Fun... Even In Our Upper Years

A lot of stories on this site (and elsewhere on the Internet) deal with the sexual adventures of young couples and young singles.  So much so that many older readers may be led to believe that it is normal for those at age 60+ to have minimal or no sex life.

That is simply NOT the case.  The letter below... and the two Testimonials that follow... evidence that older adults can enjoy full, varied sex lives well into their late years.

I sincerely hope this file is beneficial to many of my readers.
Joan


Dear Joan,
My wife and I have read your web site for several years.  We are now 72 and 73 years of age, but still enjoy a very active sex life.  We normally enjoy sex at least once (but frequently two or three times) a day. 

We have been married for 51 years, but now enjoy sex more, and more frequently than at any time in our marriage.  We are in this happy state due to both of us being on Testosterone Replacement Therapy.  I have attached two stories on how this treatment has changed many lives, written for medical professionals involved in using this treatment.  

At least 45% of all men over fifty could benefit from this treatment, and post-menopausal ladies can benefit from female testosterone-based HRT.  Here are a couple web sites that fully explain the usage of TRT, and how to diagnose and treat the deficiency:   	http://www.hormonesolutions.com.au/eCommerce/cart.php
	 and
	http://www.andropause.org.uk/
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	http://www.andropause.co.uk/resources.asp

We have heard that some doctors in the US are still proscribing TRT injections.  These are completely outdated.  The skin creams and gels are much more efficient and longer lasting.  The manufacturers in their directions tell you not to apply directly to the genital areas.  They are selling the preparations, and want you to use large quantities of their products.  In fact if you apply it to your scrotum it is absorbed up to 40 times more effectively due to the natural enzymes found in that part of your body, but you must reduce the dosage accordingly.

From a wife who could get little from sex, my wife is completely transformed into a multi-orgasmic lady who can't get enough.  We had our first threesome when she was age 66.  Due to our age and location, our experiences are limited, but nonetheless very enjoyable for all concerned.   Please keep up the good work on your site. 

Love, from a Fifty-one-years married couple.



Testosterone Testimonial - A Female Perspective

Coming  alive  -------- at   Sixty-five.

Early every morning my husband reaches out for me, and in next to no time I am transported to a plateau of wonderful sexual excitement and pleasure.

These feelings are way beyond anything that I was capable of experiencing during the first forty years of our marriage.  I used to say that my `internal wiring' was incomplete or nonexistent, and that I was `dead' inside.  But----that is not the case now!

Hubby always wanted to give me feelings of pleasure that I was not capable of achieving.  Physical pleasure for me did not develop to any great degree.  Instead, lovemaking would become wearing on me, and I could be close to tears and would want to abandon it.  Even after a time apart, when I would be longing to be in hubby's arms, physical excitement did not develop, as it should.  Sharing stimulating literature provided mental stimulation that failed to develop into physical excitement.

Was my upbringing preventing me from having a fulfilling sexual relationship?  No.  I was married and I had no doubt that sex was a vital part of our relationship.

Was it fear of pregnancy?  Possibly, or so I thought.  When our family was complete and the possibility of pregnancy was terminated there was still no improvement.  Hubby thought that it must be his fault, and that he should be able to bring about responses in me that were not materializing.  As I approached retirement and would not be expending energy at work, I hoped that I might be able to achieve more sexual pleasure.  Of course, that was just more wishful thinking.

Five years ago, having learned about the existence of post-menopausal HRT (hormone replacement therapy) and its benefits, I consulted my GP.  He started me on Livial which has a small testosterone component.  When I had been on Livial for only a few weeks, I began to see improvement in my skin texture, my hair and muscle tone.  I also began to get pleasure from my breasts/nipples being caressed, long periods of continuous pleasure.  That extended stimulation and pleasure resulted in my vagina becoming aroused and increasingly well lubricated. (My internal wiring was coming alive!)

My husband had attended the Men's Health Clinic in Harley Street, and through his doctor learned that in Australia there were Women Too clinics where women are also treated with testosterone.  After conducting an Internet search we discovered that many couples had been helped and were benefiting from this treatment. We found that Androfem cream was available on-line. 

Three years ago I started to apply a tiny spot of cream daily onto my clitoris hood and surrounding area. Soon my clitoris became much enlarged and much more sensitive, and when stimulated, sexual lubrication increased dramatically as well.  Around the same time I realized that some hair was growing on my chin.  There was also a slight increase of hair growth on my lower tummy and tops of my thighs.  That problem was completely manageable however. 

Hubby remembers that for a time my tummy used to swell a bit during sexual arousal.  I am about five pounds heavier, but no one would notice, as it does not show.  My tummy is less flabby now, and I have not grown out of any clothes.

For some time now very exciting things have been happening inside me.  Although all my orgasms up until now have been clitoral orgasms, my internal areas and particularly my G-spot have become very responsive, and we believe that one day soon I might even experience a full internal orgasm. The internal areas behind the G-spot are awake and working really well.  My husband must have thought that the awakening was complete when the head/neck of my cervix started to pump to meet his penis.  Another surprise was occasional spontaneous spurting during the height of arousal.

NOTE:  As of 2010 this lady now reports that she is now multi-orgasmic in the true sense of the word and she can get into a state as she calls 'going into space with successive waves of orgasmic bliss.'

All the advice and techniques we took on in the past trying to get satisfaction worked wonders for us now, because of the change in me brought about by the daily application of a tiny spot of cream.  I am sure now that my 'internal wiring' was always complete, only my testosterone level could not quite get the current to flow.  We can now enjoy giving each other unlimited sexual pleasures as we approach our seventies.

Better late than never.  But had the opportunity to have this small adjustment to my hormone balance been available twenty years ago, would I have been spared monthly migraines, prolonged PMT, tender breasts, lack of benefit from sleep, low mental and physical energy levels, and painful knee joints.  At that time I operated like a robot with flat batteries, with absolutely NO physical response to lovemaking. 

My husband happened to see on TV a documentary in which the benefits of HRT were explained.  I then went to see my GP, and he agreed to start me on TRT.  The migraines stopped, and I felt unwell for only one day a month.  Life improved greatly.  I was no longer so tired that I was miserable.  I got back to what had been my best. 

I was born too soon for the `Women Too' clinics, and in the wrong country.  I am glad for those Australian women who are like I was, but have access to those clinics.

I am so thankful that we came across the TRT information and decided to use it. It has helped various aspects of my person.  I am now calmer and more confident.  I feel fitter than ever, have no aches or pains, and at last I can reward my husband with encouraging responses that he had long since given up hoping for. 




Testosterone Testimonial - A Male Perspective


I have always been one of those men who opened their eyes in the morning, rolled out of bed and had something to do.  Apart from 5 years spent in the colonial service in East Africa after my graduation, I have always been my own boss responsible for my business and those working for me.  

I worked in the belief that if things could go wrong, they would go wrong.  That was to be expected, and I was responsible for putting things right.  I was never emotional in the face of adversity, always putting all my energy into overcoming any problem.

I got married at 21, and my wife.  I have 4 children and 8 grandchildren.  My wife and I are still together and happier than ever after 49 years.

On reaching my early fifties my life began to change.  I found I was having to make a greater effort to try to keep on top of problems.  I started to notice physical aches and pains in my joints.  As the years passed things slowly worsened.  For the first time in my life I started visiting my GP ever more frequently.  I started to get unbelievable nighttime sweats, so bad that the bed cloths had to be changed, and my wife was even threatening to get single beds.

I became very depressed, and far from leaping up in the mornings, I did not want to get up and face the challenges of every new day.  Instead of being and keeping on top of things, I found myself trying to avoid and even ignore problems.  To top things off, I developed a ferocious and unreasonably bad temper, going ballistic for the most improbable reasons.  It got so bad that I even found myself kicking the wall in the office when a machine would malfunction.  I really thought that I was about to lose it completely.

Finally my GP arranged for me to be given the once over by the consultants in the local principal hospital.  I endured all the indignities known to man, with endoscopes, internal optical cameras, ex-rays, ultrasound scans, etc.  When the results of all the tests were ready, the senior consultant told me that there was nothing physically wrong, and that I must just realize that I was getting older. 

I mentioned TRT to him, as I had seen a newspaper article about it.  He told me that there was no problem with my hormone levels, and that my testosterone level was bang in the middle of the normal range.  I was not a happy chappie with that news, as I knew within myself that something was wrong.

Days later I happened to watch the Kilroy morning TV program where two senior doctors were saying that there was absolutely no benefit to be gained from TRT treatments for men.  However all the men in the studio were denying this, and saying from their own experience that TRT was responsible for changing their lives for the better.  One old widower who was interviewed said he was eighty-two years old, and had two girlfriends that he claimed to be keeping happy.

A cetain doctor of the Harley Street clinic kept being brought up.  So before the program had ended, I had been on to directory enquiries and found his practice phone number, and had made an appointment to see him.  I went to my GP and told him about what I had seen on TV, and of my forthcoming appointment. 

I requested that he should send copies of my latest medical results to the Harley Street doctor to save me the cost of duplication of some of the scans etc.  That he was happy to do, and only asked that I should keep him posted on developments.

Because I was traveling down from Scotland, the doctor was to see me first thing in the morning.  After a thorough medical examination by him, I was sent to a nearby Path Lab for blood and urine tests.  I then had to return to see the doctor in the afternoon, by which time he would have my lab test results. 

I was delighted when he said that I was suitable for treatment.  It appeared that while my testosterone level was indeed normal, the more important free available testosterone level was dropping off the bottom of the scale.  He started me off right away on some testosterone capsules, and asked me to phone him every fortnight with progress reports, so that he could alter my dosage until he found my optimum requirement.  I also had to return to London and see him three months later for him to check on my progress.

The change in my life was unbelievably swift.  Three or four days later I found myself walking home from work grinning from ear to ear, and thinking that if anybody saw me they would think that I was daft.  I felt so good, confident and relaxed. I was once more back in command of myself, and my life. 

Problems quickly disappeared, and I found that my brain was able once more to detect changes in the sound of machines, allowing me to take action and pre-empt problems arising. The night sweats and other physical problems all disappeared, and I was once more a more normal human being.

Things also got a lot better for my wife, not only because I was much nicer to her, and less grumpy, but also I was definitely more attentive.  My sex drive improved, and we made love more often.  Sex also improved for both of us, as my erections were longer and stronger, to our mutual pleasure, and is now as good as it has ever been in our lives.

After some eighteen months, the doctor started me on six monthly implants, as they were more efficient and powerful.  Those worked well, but unfortunately I am one of those people who can spontaneously reject these implants, either within a few weeks, or sometimes several months after implantation.  By that time the then new testosterone creams were becoming available.  He prescribed them for me, and they worked even better than previous forms of treatment.  I have been on those magic creams ever since.

I had my first appointment with this special doctor on Feb.28, 1997, and now just over ten years later I am still as fit and active as ever.  Certainly I'm in very much better physical and mental shape than in those years in my fifties before my Harley Street visit in my sixtieth year.  I shudder to think of what my life would have been like, and whether I would still even be here, but for the many blessings of testosterone treatment.


