Advice From An Experienced Extra Guy

The following thoughts are being shared by a 46-year-old 
guy who has been the extra guy for many couples.


To those of you who want to share your wife or partner with another man, remember when you approach her that you are asking her to do something that she has been taught since she was a child is wrong, and you will have to introduce her to this slowly.  

All women are not the same, just like men are different.  Some ladies will take less time thinking about it, and go for the lifestyle eagerly when their partner suggests it.  Some will have to be shown a lot of extra love and devotion before they open themselves to this lifestyle.  

I am not saying that women in this second group don't fantasize about other men, they just think differently than men do.  Most women think of sex being tied to romance, where men have more animal instincts, seeing sex as a way for adult humans to experience great levels of pleasure.  Ladies have such instincts too, but most don't realize it until it is brought out in the open.  

The chances are good for you to transform your lady into a shared wife or MFM participant, but you need to first approach her with your desire to see her have sex with another guy.  Then be prepared for her reaction.  At first her reaction will probably be to call you a pervert or something like that, and not talk to you for a while.  But if you let the storm ride out, tell her you are sorry if you offended her, tell her that you really do love her, and tell her "its just that I think it would be so sexy to watch you fuck another guy... maybe a well-hung guy"  Tell her that sometimes when the two of you have sex you feel that another guy could help you give her even more pleasure.

Then, while you two are having sex, repeat the above thoughts.  After a while you will notice that she will start to get a little wilder and wetter as you talk about how sexy she would look fucking another man with a big cock.  Don't be pushy, just talk to her.  Then start buying her sexy panties and bras, and encourage her to wear them while shopping or out with you at bars, etc.  I think you will see her become a little more open, and maybe even flirt some with men that she talks to.

Then tell her how proud you are that other men find her attractive, and encourage her to be more daring.  But keep bringing up that you would really enjoy watching her fuck another man, "Because you are too sexy for only one guy."  

It may take many months, but eventually you will find that she will bring up the subject if you don't.  While you two are making love she may ask just what you would like to see her do with another man.  You can say that you want to watch another guy's cock slide into her pussy as you hold and neck with her, or maybe tell her you want to watch her suck his dick, and see her swallow his cum.

At this point you should try to get her to tell you what she would like for a man to do to her, and encourage her to let her imagination run wild.  She will start to have better orgasms as she considers those thoughts (remember, the brain [mind] can be the best source of great sexual stimulation), and you will both have some of the best sex ever.  

If she agrees to read some about MFM sex, actively join her.  Show her how many men feel as you do.  Then she will see that you are not some deranged man.  Talk to her, and help her plan how she might want this thing to happen.  After all, it's her body, and she might want something different than you.  But if she does it once, and you pick a man who doesn't get too aggressive... one who treats her with respect, and gives her a good orgasm... she will later give you your fantasy.

After you get your wife actively participating in your fantasy by talking about sex with another man, you will still have a very big hurdle... getting her to agree on a particular guy.  

At this point a lot of ladies have been having sexy thoughts of their own, and are really considering it.  For some women the thought of actually letting some strange man fuck her might still be a put-off.  You need to sit her down and explain to her how much it will mean to you.  Or maybe bring it up while you are having sex and she is getting ready to cum.

A thought to keep in mind:  In this day and age, most women recognize that the modern woman will not have just one sex partner during her life.  Many gals had multiple partners before being married (regardless what they admit to).  They just might not expect their husband to permit/encourage them to have sex with other guys while they are married.  That's the mindset that you need to penetrate... giving her abundant assurance that you WANT her to play with other cocks, and be fulfilled by other guys, and that it will not negatively impact your marriage. 
  
This is the time you should let her know that you really want to see this happen.  

Then she will need more time to think about it.  You will need to talk to her more.  Repeatedly tell her how much you love her, and let her know how much she means to you, how sexy she is, and that you can't think of what life would be like without her.

Remember, this a very big step for her, and she will need your support, but by now the thought has been planted, and she is at least curious.  She will probably ask who you wanted to watch her with.  Then there may be a discussion about health and secrecy.  Those things can be worked out with the help of the county health center, and carefully planning the seduction.

I would recommend planning to involve a stranger, because even good friends can turn on you, and soon all of your friends would know.  Several online dating groups have listings.  CraigsList is a great source for such contacts.

When you finally locate a guy you both thinks sounds interesting, talk to the guy.  Let him know what you expect.  Don't choose the first guy.  Shop around.  Then let your wife talk to him on the phone, and plan a no activity meeting to get to know each other.  Your wife may want to meet with several men before she chooses one.  

If she won't agree to meet with a man, try to get her to sit down and talk with him in an Internet chat room or by phone.   If she worries about being identified, you can always buy cheap phones where you just buy minutes.  You don't want to give your real phone number to a stranger.  

Find someone who will talk to her in a respectful manner.  You should contact him first and tell him things about your wife (like her hobbies or cooking or anything he can talk to her about to make her relax a bit).  Those are things that will help him to make your wife feel more comfortable.  Believe me, she needs assurance, all the love you can give her, and all the warm fuzzies the other guy can give her.

Although by this time some ladies are ready to play, each woman will have her own buttons you may need to push.  But if you are willing to do the things necessary for this to happen... trust me, it will be a mind-boggling experience for you.  More importantly, can lead to amazing experiences for her... experiences of sexual fulfillment she has yet to know.  

There are many men out there ready to be your wife's extra guy... ready to join you in treating her like a queen.  Whoever you choose, just remember your wife will need for you to give her a lot of support and love along the way.

Once your wife has had a good MFM experience (you, she, and a respectful additional guy), she will wonder what took her so long to agree to give it a try... and thank you for giving her that experience.  And, you will have the pleasure of watching your loving wife get doubled pleasure.