Who's Kidding Who?

From Helen
For the most part, we ladies enjoy variety in sex just as much as men do!  I guess social constraints tend to keep us from being as upfront about it as males are, but our interest (desires?) for sexual variety can be just as strong as that of the male.

Joan, I start my note to you with the above statement, because I feel that too many women seem to hide their natural desires for variety in their sex lives.  Maybe they do so in the fear that the men in their lives will not understand.  I contend that it is time women expressed themselves to their men that they want variety too.

I think that after a certain number of years of marriage (or of going with the same guy), a large number of women begin to wonder what it would be like to experience a different cock, and different love-making techniques.  I contend that such thoughts ARE NOT just the domain of the male.

I guess I am lucky.  I am married to a man who treats me as an equal in every respect, and listens when I tell him I want to try something different.  He even seems to get excited at the prospect of our trying new sexual things together.

In my case, it all started one night about four years ago while we were enjoying some hot sex together.  He said, "I'll bet you would love to have a strange dick pumping in and out of your pussy as you and I are necking."  He had said things like that before, but this time I replied with, "Promises, promises!"

After we had both enjoyed some really good orgasms that evening, and were laying in bed enjoying the afterglow, he asked if I would really be receptive to having another guy join in our lovemaking.  Without hesitating I said, "You have mentioned that idea several times.  I have given it a lot of thought, and I might just be interested... if YOU are serious."

That led to our opening up to each other and taking turns sharing "crazy" fantasies that we had each entertained over the years.

To give you a little background, I am now 36, reasonably attractive (I keep my body in shape) and my husband says I have "luscious boobs."  I work part time as a receptionist in a real estate office.  I have to admit that I have been "hit on" a few times there, but prior to four years ago, I never followed through with any of the flirting.

My husband (Gary) is now 38.  I consider him very handsome, and he is a good and creative love-maker.  Gary keeps his body in shape too with regular exercise at a club he belongs to.  Gary is a car salesman (a very successful one) for a local Ford dealership.

We have a son, now age 14, who is active in a variety of sports and clubs.  Because of him, most of the activities I am about to tell you about have taken place away from the house (except when he has been visiting his grandparents).

After that first conversation, when I realized that my husband believed me when I said I would like to explore some fantasies... together with him... I started to open up about titillating thoughts that had gone through my mind over the years of our marriage.  We stressed to each other that we trully loved each other, and only each other, and that our fantasies (and any fulfilling we may do) were strictly for fun.

I told him that I had often wondered what it would be like to feel another man's cock inside my body, fucking me.  I also told him that having him neck with me while another guy was eating or fucking me... was another often repeated fantasy that I had thought about.  Naturally I also told him that it would be neat to see what it felt like to have an extra large cock inside me, even though Gary's cock is not small.     

Gary confided that he had often wondered what it would be like to watch another man have his way with me, and/or to have me tell him later about a sexual encounter I had without him there.  He said he felt that I could enjoy higher levels of sexual fulfillment if I allowed myself to experience other guys, and/or let him and another guy simultaneously make love to me.  (I couldn't find fault with that thought.)  And, he admitted that he had wondered what it would be like to screw another woman (he assured me that up to that point during our marriage, he had not given in to those thoughts).

We cuddled more and mused on our mutual fantasy confessions, before having another round of hot sex.  Over the next few nights we discretely talked about how we might make things happen.


Before I go further, I must stress again that I think it is healthy for couples to be totally honest with each other about all aspects of their sex life, including the fantasies they have each entertained.  There is absolutely NO reason why such sharing should ever get in the way of a good loving relationship with one's mate.  Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy.  But, of course this assumes one has a good primary relationship with their spouse.

What possible benefit could there be for mates to permenantly hide their fantasies?  Fantasies are simply visions of what one THINKS may be exciting and enjoyable.  There is NO REASON to expect that the sharing of fantasies (or even the fulfillment of some or all of them) should splinter a solid relationship.

Most men have fantasies all the time.  Over the years I have watched my husband (and lots of other men) as they oogle attractive women, study their breasts, asses, and (when possible) their pussies.  We all know that most men would love to get their dicks into some "new, strange stuff."  That does not mean they don't love us.  Men have a way of seperating sex and sexual fulfillment from love.  I believe we can (and should) do that too.  As a matter of fact, we MUST develop the ability to do that if we ever want to consider fulfilling any of our new lover fantasies.  We MUST keep our love focused on our primary man, even when we let another man (or woman) into our sex life.


Back to my story.

About a week after our evening of sharing fantasies, Gary came home and asked if I would like to experience sex with a new guy.  Naturally I was immediately curious, and turned-on.  It seems that the health club where Gary works out often gets visited by out-of-town businessmen who want to work out while they are doing business in our area.

Gary told me he had struck up a conversation with a guy (who I will call Adam) who was visiting for a week from another state.  During their conversation Adam had mentioned that he sure wished he could meet a woman while he was in town... just for the purpose of some fun sex.  Typical man-talk, I thought.  At first, Gary told him he could not help him out.

Then, after Gary thought about it for awhile, he thought, 'I'll probably never see this guy again after this week, and he doesn't even know my full name, so.... why not?'  Gary then told me that he went back to the guy and told him he might just have an idea how to get that "fun sex."  He asked Adam to join him for a drink after their workout.  Adam agreed.

They met afterward at a bar.  Gary proceeded to tell Adam about our earlier conversation.  Adam was intrigued.  Then, Adam admitted that during his travels he had gotten together with a few couples where both guys made love to the wife... just hetro stuff, he assured.  Well, the long and the short of their conversaiton was that Gary would come home and ask me if I was interested.  If so, we could meet later in the week for dinner, and if we all hit it off OK, we could go to Adam's hotel room to see where things would go.

After listening to Gary, I noticed that anticipatory tinglings were running though my body, and I was beginning to feel hot.  I did not commit to anything at that moment, but after we got our son to bed, Gary and I jumpped into bed and had some really great sex.  During that time I told him I would like to meet Adam, and maybe....

Two nights later we met Adam at the restaurant in the hotel where he was staying.  He proved to be a really good looking guy who was quite personable.  Before the waiter even came to take our dessert order I had made a decision.  I reached under the table for Gary's hand... then hesitantly over to take Adam's hand in my other hand... and (with... Gary told me later... with a sort of shit-eating grin on my face) I asked them if they thought it might be a good idea to have dessert in Adam's room.  Obviously we skipped the restaurant's dessert, paid the bill, and headed for Adam's room.

Now I must admit that during the ride up on the elevator I was experiencing a bit of trepidation.  While the elevator moved up, I gave Gary a big hug and kiss, and while looking over his shoulder I winked at Adam.  As we got out of the elevaltor, I noticed a bulge in Adam's pants... and in Gary's.

Without getting into the details that your other stories have already repeated over and over again, as soon as we got into the room and the door was closed, it was mere moments before the guys had my clothes off, kissed me all over, and then they shed their own clothes.  The first time Adam ate and then screwed me, Gary lay beside me and hugged and kissed me from the moment Adam laid between my legs until well after my first orgasm.  Adam came inside me moments later, and that set me off again.

During that evening both my husband and Adam gave me LOTS of pleasure in many different ways.  I can't tell you how wonderful I felt as Gary and I drove home after bidding Adam goodbye.

As soon as we got into bed Gary entered me and we began to talk about our shared experience.  Gary told me  how excited it made him to see Adam licking and sucking my pussy.  We had both watched across my body as we shared the view of Adam's cock entering me that first time.  We admitted to each other that the scene was an amazing turn-on, seeing the head of Adam's dick part my pussy lips... and then slide on into me.

I told Gary all I could remember about the feelings and sensations that went through my body at that moment of Adam's entry into my body.  He told me that he had been able to feel the minute tremmors that my body gave off at that moment and the minutes that followed.  He said that when he screwed me he was too focused on the feelings in his own cock to notice my bodily responses in the past.  Then he laughed and said my pussy felt extra hot and "squishy" when he entered me after Adam had squirted his juices inside me.  He said it felt good, knowing what the lubrication was that was cushioning his cock within me.

We have talked about that night MANY times since.  A few months later, when Adam returned to our area, he called Gary (just before leaving that first night, Gary gave Adam his work phone number).  We got together twice during that second week Adam was in town.  Both times we skipped the dinner prelude. 

In the four years since Gary and I opened up to each other about our fantasies, we have explored many of them... several times.  In addition to seeing Adam occasionally when he comes to town, Gary has discretely located five other guys with whom we have had wonderful MFM threesomes.  I met Adam alone twice, and and been with two other guys without Gary being with me.  In each case I went home and immediately told Gary what I had done, and what each guy had done with me.  Each such report has given Gary instant hard-ons, and resulted in the two of us having great sex together.

I have also made arrangements on a few occasions for Gary to have some "strange" pussy.  Twice were Gary and the woman alone, and four times were FMF threesomes with me.  This was with a total of three very sexy women.  At first I had a twinge of jealousy, but that went away quickly as the hearing of Gary's experiences resulted in more great (loving) sex between the two of us.

One time Gary took me with him on an out-of-town business trip.  He had already made arrangements for us to meet a guy in the town we were visiting.  When we got there he called the guy to come over "for some afternoon delight."  Gary had not told me that the guy was black. 

When he (Kevin) arrived, I was in a brief teddy that Gary had gotten for me, and I was momentarily taken back by the appearance of the large-framed, athletically-build black man in front of me.  Kevin smiled a warm, approving smile at me, came in (closing the door behind him), and my hesitations immediately melted away.  That proved to be one hot afternoon!

Before Kevin left, he and Gary made arrangements for him to return that evening... with Kevin bringing a black male friend with him.  For the rest of the afternoon and early evening I was again anxious about what it might be like to be with my husband and TWO black guys.  That night proved to be memorably wild!  At one point I was standing in our room, bent over, taking turns sucking on these two new black dicks, and Gary was screwing me from behind.  What a scene!  Then our new friends took turns screwing me while I lay on the bed with the other black cock and Gary's white cock right at mouth level.  I alternately sucked the two contrasting cocks until I had to stop to focus on the pleasure between my legs.

Gary and I have often talked about that night with my two black lovers, and the various other "fantasy fulfillment" adventures that we both have had.  Such talks ALWAYS result in great loving sex between us.  If possible, I believe there is a higher level of intimacy and respectful love between Gary and me than before we starting allowing others into our shared sex life.  We both have some yet-to-be fulfilled fantasies... and I am sure we will get to them sometime.

All I can say to other women is... stop kidding yourself!  Open yourself to your mate.  Let him know that you fantacize too.  Let him know that you are open to BOTH of you enjoying some new sexual experiences. 

Joan, if any of your female readers want to write to me, have them write to you, and then forward it on to me.  I will be happy to answer any specific questions and give suggestions based on my own real experiences.


Some comments by Gary:
Joan, I just wanted to add a few thoughts to Helen's letter to you.  I love my wife very dearly, and I know that she loves me the same way.  Some folks may think it weird to "let" a spouse have sex with someone else.  We don't think that way.  We think of it as a different kind of shared fun... recreation, if you will.

I will never forget that first night with Adam.  What an amazing sight to be holding my Helen in my arms while watching the cock of another guy enter her pussy.  I gained a whole new perspective to the way my wife's body responds to sexual stimulation.  Watching and feeling her body as it welcomed Adam inside provided an unparalelled surge of sexual stimulation (titilation) to me.  My cock immediately got as hard as it had ever been.

She kept whispering her love to me as his pumping motions increased within her body, and I cupped her breasts and tweeked her nipples throughout their union.  For the first time I was able to objectively observe how Helen's body responded to the sexual stimulation of a cock probing within her... another guy's cock.  I was able to add to her pleasure with my caresses and kisses.  I am convinced that her orgasms that night were at levels well beyond what I had ever observed when it was just the two of us having sex.  I know mine were.

Each time Helen has come home and told me of a sexual exlperience she has had with another guy, and each time I have been there to personally share in those "new guy" experiences... have vicariously given me wonderful pleasure.  Like Helen, I highly recommend that couples share their fantasies, and then make at least some of them actually happen.

Helen and I have always had a great sex life, but these days it is even better.  Thanks for your interest in our experiences.

NOTE TO READERS:  It you wish to contact Helen or Gary, write to them care of me (Joan at JJJ3313260@aol.com.  I will forward your note to them.