Opening Your Girlfriend/Wife to Trying New Guys

I am now 44, live in Finland, and have been married for nearly 6 years now.

Some guys have asked on this site how to get their girlfriends or wife to have sex with other guys.  Actually, I think it is surprisingly easy.

Since I was in my teens, the thought of my girlfriend or wife being with other men has caused me excitement, lots of excitement... rather than jealousy.

I know this is not the normal alpha male way of thinking, so I have VERY rarely talked to men about my thoughts on sharing my girlfriends (and now my wife).  When I HAVE, it has just freaked them out.  To 99.999% of men, their biggest fear is of their woman 'straying'.  I suppose I am almost the OPPOSITE of the 'normal' male.

I have no idea why I am the way I am... but I AM!

It is said that many men think about allowing their girlfriend or wife to experience sex with other men, but I think in truth only a very few actually do.  Of those who do, I reckon that the vast majority have this as a fantasy, and they really don't want it ever acted-out.  Of the few who are left, I think that most would be one-off merchants... let her try it once, and that's it!

I think men who really DO want their lady to experience the pleasures and variety of sex with other guys, in reality are VERY few and far between.  

My view is that women should be given total sexual freedom, while the man remains faithful to her...  i.e.  not an equal 'open-relationship'.  I know, most men will not want such inequality in sexual freedom, but often it is an essential element in getting your lady to open herself.  

I think that if encouraging a woman in this direction is the objective...  this view helps CONSIDERABLY!  Typical female tendencies toward jealousy, if mitigated by her man promising that the sexual freedom is just for her, will open her mind to new sexual potentials.

For the last 25 years I have been completely open with women on my views, and open from the very start.  I have had probably no more than 10 'relationships' during that period, and only ONE of the gals was 100% against the idea from day one.  All of the other gals were intrigued, from our first conversation... and all (except two) actually 'took the plunge'!  

That might look like a 70% success rate (7 out of 10), and that is pretty good in itself!  Truth is that the one who was 100% against from day one turned out have had a lover on-the-side for most of the time we were together.  So I see this as a success rate of 80%.  I am still friends with the other two, and both are now converts.  They just didn't have the nerve to do-the-deed at the time, and now are both with 'normal' men... so their freedom is gone!!

So, you could therefore read this as a true 100% success rate!!!

What's the trick?  Firstly, don't just play with this idea.  Make absolutely sure that this IS what you want.  Otherwise you are gambling with some very precious commodities... trust and love.

The consequences can be delicious, not hurt anybody, and can last forever... or they can destroy an otherwise desirable relationship.

Actually the trick has two parts - 
1.) Accept and believe that the female of the species is fundamentally more sexual, more sexy, and more sensuous, than the male.  Female superiority in this department has been a reality for all time.  Many men have realized this, but suppressed it, because they are basically frightened of these facts!  

Suppression of this area of female superiority has been via moral, religious, and social 'conditioning.'  Our education/upbringing still, today, means that if a boy 'wanders,' he is called "a naughty boy"... but if its a girl does that, she is called "a slut"!!
 
2.) TELL your lady your views on this topic.  Tell her often, and let her know your views are genuine.  Make it VERY clear that you believe that dual standard is just fundamentally unfair and wrong.  Convincing her that you really believe in female superiority in this area is then much easier to get across.  

In truth, every man knows that even the very 'average' female (i.e. not just models/porn stars) can generally completely control any male.  Yes - Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp could probably walk into any bar in the world, and if they want a shag, they could take their pick.

But, the average housewife (or maybe say half the women on the planet!) could walk into a bar, and do the same!!

Why don't they?  Well its TOTALLY because they have been brainwashed, from birth, into not being allowed to explore/exploit their inherent sexuality.

Get this/these points across to your lady, and the rest is fairly easy!!

I say this because I really believe it.  When you 'release' a gal from those chains... and when they actually let go... the results can be everything you could possibly ever have wished for.  On two occasions for me, it has verged on being 'scary"!  Hey... release a caged animal... how do you expect it to behave!!

However good/real your commitment or intentions are, be prepared for the first time to still be a test.  "OK, I'll do it... lets see if he REALLY likes me to do it, or he is just playing."  There can be a big element of 'fuck you' about this, and, at the risk of sounding patronizing, its similar to 'breaking' an untamed horse.  What I mean is that once it's done... it's done.  Be prepared!!!

As examples... two of my ex-girlfriends just listened to what I had to say, took me at my word, and off-they-went.  One of them (once I had told her my views) immediately called an old-faithful/reliable fuck-buddy, and was in bed with him within hours.  The other said she wanted a few days to get her head around the idea (she was particularly worried about our friends finding out).  After a week she said, "Yeah its cool," and told me that she had already had sex with two different men since our chat!

Two others took the course I warned about above.  One just disappeared off the face of the earth for three days.  Yes she was doing exactly what I'd hoped, but at that stage in the relationship I wasn't thinking it might be that.  I was just fucking worried about her!  When she returned home she was about as 'messy' as a girl could get.  She had just been at-it for three days, and stank of fags, booze and sex.  Naturally I forgave her instantly!!!! 

The other one, my first wife, decided to try the ultimate test - forget 'discretion.'  She decided that if I was really up for it... if she really had TOTAL carte-blanche... that meant she could chose ANY sexual partner she wanted.  She chose the most dangerous she could... one of my mates!!  This gets back to my earlier point: Men ARE generally controlled by their dicks! 

Normally I would have burned him as a mate, instantly, for being disloyal to me.  But I know how Neanderthal most men are - "pussy - yum yum, ug-ug-ug!!"  He was a risky, but perfect, choice for her.  He happens to have the biggest cock I have ever seen, so I know he gave her pleasure.  He just accepted her offer the second she made it.  That was her ideal 'first encounter.'  It pretty much guaranteed she was hooked.  And, she was!

In that situation my mate became a regular for my wife.  The three of us would go out for dinner, then back to our place.  Later she would then offer him a lift home.  He lived about 5 minutes away, but she was never back in less than an hour.  It became SO obvious.  I would fake a yawn, and go to bed.  She would come-up three hours later!  

The funny thing is, to this day he doesn't know that I knew.  He is in the 'normal male' camp.  The idea that I might approve would have blown his head off!  But the idea that he was shagging his best mate's bird, behind his back, and she was constantly telling him how much bigger his cock was... that was 'OK'!?!  

The other thing about that/them was that it was a rubber-free adventure!  Dangerous, and NOT to be recommended.  But her view was: "If you are going to be bad... make it as bad as possible!!"  The other 'plus' of that situation was her body scent when she crawled back in bed with me in the early hours... smelling of sex... full of him... smelling of him... tasting of him!!  I loved it!

That first marriage ended... not because I let/encouraged my wife to explore her sexuality with other guys... but because she wanted kids, and I didn't.  I think that's why she did the rubber-free thing with him.  Fortunately, she never got pregnant while we were married.

Experiences with my next wife (to whom I am still married) have been more discrete.  But all of these experiences have been drug-like.  After the first try... HOOKED!!

I love it when my wife decides to explore a sexual adventure with a new guy.  She always comes back to our marriage bed with stimulating reports, and she is always anxious for me to give her one or two more shags before we finally rest for the night.  Her new experiences always seem to bring her to higher levels of horniness... from which I benefit!

Well, that's my advice, for what it's worth.

I would recommend it to any healthy deviant guy who is strong, adventurous, and brave.



