SHE'S READY TO TRY HER FIRST MFM THREESOME... 
BUT HAS QUESTIONS FOR JOAN


December 17, 1998


Joan,

Thanks so much for sending the stories.  I do 
appreciate it.   I apologize for being so late in 
writing back to you.  Christmas has kept me busy to say 
the least.  I do apologize!!!

You asked a few questions, and I'll try to answer 
them... and also share some other things with you.

I am a 45-year-old divorced woman.  No, I don't live in 
a Metropolitan area.  I live in a "semi-small" town in 
East Texas.  However, I am only about 2 1/2 hours from 
Dallas and about 30-45 minutes away from Shreveport 
Louisiana.  Shreveport/Bossier City has several casinos 
and clubs, and is a place that Larry (my boyfriend) and 
I enjoy going for the weekend.  

Kids - I have two boys.  One is in college, and the 
other is a junior in high school.  My youngest splits 
his time between me and his dad (who lives in the same 
town in which I reside).  I am quite proud of both 
boys.   My youngest is still trying to "find himself", 
but is a good kid overall.

No, Larry and I have not tried a threesome yet.  As I 
mentioned in my last note to you, we are considering 
it.   I have only been with two men in my 45 years 
(Geez, that sounds old!) - Larry and ButtHead... my ex!  
Larry and I sort of got into talking about it one night 
while we were watching an XXX video.    

We had seen XXX videos before that included various 
scenes with multiple partners, and neither one of us 
had really said anything about it.  However, that 
particular night, Larry said something like, "How would 
you feel about having sex with me and someone else at 
the same time?"   

Well, I didn't know if he was kidding, or wanting me to 
say no (you know... 'no one but you baby!'), or if he 
was really serious.  I think I answered something like, 
"It might be fun to have two cocks to play with at 
once, but you give me all I want," or something like 
that.  I really didn't know what to say.

A week or so later, Larry and I were making love.  
Actually, I was going down on him, with my pussy in his 
face!  Ok, we were in a 69! (haha)  Anyway, he stopped 
eating me (which I used to despise when I was married, 
but have grown to love!), and soon I felt something 
enter my pussy.  Later I found out that, unknown to me, 
Larry had bought a dildo, and had planned on using it 
in just this type of situation.  We had talked about 
buying some toys during some of our earlier 
conversations, but I had no idea he had done so.

Well, as he slid it into me, he said something like, 
"Janie, I bought us a new toy."  So I quickly knew what 
I was feeling.  After a few seconds, I relaxed and 
began to enjoy the feeling of the dildo sliding in and 
out of me, and I returned to sucking Larry's cock 
(something else that I NOW love to do).   

Soon, I was really into it, and Larry started saying 
things like, "Baby, pretend that there's another real 
cock inside you, while you are sucking me.  Yeah Janie, 
it is a stranger's big cock, fucking you while you are 
sucking me.  Doesn't it feel good... you sucking me and 
having another cock in your pussy?"  Things like that.  

Much too easily (possibly), I began to fantasize... 
thinking about really having two men, one of them being 
Larry of course... and I began sucking Larry 
voraciously.   As I felt him come inside my mouth, he 
continued to stroke me with the dildo and began 
babbling something about, "Now, I'm going to come in 
your hot pussy."  

That was all it took, I literally EXPLODED!   Later, as 
we lay together in bed, Larry asked me if I had enjoyed 
having two cocks inside me at the same time.  Before I 
tell you my reply, let me state that Larry and I are 
completely honest with each other... in all things.  We 
have both shared our innermost thoughts with each 
other, both sexual and non-sexual.  

Anyway, I always know that I can be honest with him, 
and I hope (and believe) he feels likewise.  So, to his 
question, I replied, "Yes, I had enjoyed it... A LOT!"  
I went on to tell him it was the first time that I had 
ever had THE FEELING OF two cocks in me simultaneously, 
and it was very much a turn-on.  

I continued by explaining that although I did enjoy it, 
I had hesitations and reservations about having another 
"real" cock inside me.  His "being both cocks" was one 
thing, but I didn't know how I would feel about 
actually having a third party involved.  

Well, we have repeated the above scenario several times 
since that first occasion, and each time I have enjoyed 
it a little more.  We have even gotten to the point of 
referring to such nights as our "Threesome Nights."  
So, yes, I have come to the point where I THINK I would 
like to try a real threesome at least once.

So, now my comments... and questions... for you:

1.   I KNOW that I would have to have our threesome in 
another town.  I would not feel comfortable otherwise.   
I think that like that couple in one of the stories you 
sent me, I would prefer for us to meet at a hotel or 
the hotel bar.  Then, if things then went "ok," we 
could go to our room.  If not, then we wouldn't have 
the worry about having someone know where we live and 
who we are.  Is that a sound idea?

Joan's Reply - 

That is an excellent idea.  You will probably want to 
start off using fictitious names for yourselves.  It is 
always best if one or both of you "interview" the 
potential extra guy before you are committed to having 
him join you in bed.  Such an "interview" may be short 
and informal... or it may be extended, with several 
pre-planned questions, and some form of physical 
contact for you (like dancing) before you definitely 
decide to invite this guy into your shared lovelife.

Since you live in a fairly small community... yes, I 
think it is the best idea to start by trying to meet 
another guy in a distant city.


2.   Our general plan is also similar to the one we 
read in one of your stories.  Larry would try to make 
initial contact with someone unknown to us, either in 
Dallas or in Shreveport.   We would meet the guy in the 
bar.  I would be dressed provocatively (I do that on 
our weekend getaways now anyway! Haha), and maybe a 
dance, a drink, some conversation.   What if I don't 
like the guy?   Is it a problem to "just say no"?  

Joan's Reply -

No, it is NEVER a problem... or unacceptable... to 
"just say no!"  You are clearly the one who is in 
charge of your body... including your sexuality.  It 
should ALWAYS BE YOU who decides that a particular guy 
or situation is comfortable for you... or is not.  

When you meet this unknown guy, you should start with 
the premise that his cock is not going to tour your 
pussy unless YOU want him to...unless YOU have at least 
some level of "turn-on" with this guy... even if you 
plan to be more passive with him, and more focused on 
your regular partner.  

Chances are that you will want to say "yes" when that 
discrete threesome opportunity arises... but don't 
hesitate to say "no" if you don't like this particular 
guy.  There are lots of guys out there... and you don't 
want your first threesome to be with someone you don't 
like... or someone who is so into himself that your 
pleasure is secondary (at best).

If you do meet at a bar where there is dancing, and you 
have tentatively decided that this new guy may work, 
invite him to dance with you.  You will get some idea 
about his tenderness, and his focus on your pleasure... 
by the way he dances with you.  If he is a gentle-man, 
you will sense it.  If he is egotistical and self-
centered, you may want to avoid inviting him to join 
you back at the room.

If you learn that this man has some previous threesome 
experience, that could be a real plus.  It is better if 
at least one of the three of you has some previous 
experience.  

Larry or you may even want to ask this guy what he 
would like to do to/with you... how he believes he can 
add to your level of pleasure.  Ask if he enjoys 
treating a woman to prolonged orally-induced 
pleasure... if he would like to stroke his cock slowly 
in and out of your pussy from behind you, while you 
neck with Larry... if he would feel comfortable if he 
or his cock touches Larry or Larry's cock while they 
are both making love to you.

Be frank in your pre-go-to-the-room conversation.  You 
can do so if you have chosen a corner table for your 
conversations.  Finally, if you do decide you feel 
comfortable with this new guy, look him directly in his 
eyes, and tell him that you look forward to the 
pleasures his tongue can give you... to the feel of his 
cock inside you while you neck with Larry, etc.  
Believe me, at this point, the show is ready to roll!  
It won't take the three of you long to get to your 
room.

On the other hand, if you don't end up feeling 
comfortable with this guy, tell the guys that you need 
to go to the lady's room... and let that be a pre-
arranged signal to Larry that you DO NOT want to 
include this guy in your first threesome.  

Then, stay away while Larry politely thanks him for 
meeting with you both... and tells him that HE feels 
that today/tonight is not the right time for he and you 
to try your first threesome... that maybe the three of 
you can meet some other time (as you say... "haha").  
Then when he leaves, you and Larry can make plans for 
meeting another (more comfortable) guy for a future 
first threesome party.  Nothing (but time) lost.


3.  One of my biggest fears is that we will go to the 
room and I will "chicken out."   As I told you, I have 
only been with two men in my life.  While my self-
confidence has grown greatly since my relationship with 
Larry, I still have some doubts.  Will he think I am 
attractive?  Am I too fat?   But, most of all, what if 
I JUST CAN'T bring myself to do it???   Could it get 
ugly???

Joan's Reply -

Good questions.  First, let me assure you that if this 
guy thinks you are unattractive or "too fat," you will 
pick up on that back at the bar or on the dance floor.  
If you do, stop things before you ever get to the room.  
From what you have told me about yourself, I doubt that 
will happen.  You said you intended to dress 
"provocatively," so just KNOW that you are a desirable 
woman who he would LOVE TO FUCK!

Let me make some suggestions to help you avoid getting 
into a motel room with an extra guy who seems "right," 
and then finding that you "just can't do it."  Since 
you have not yet had any experiences of sex with... or 
nudity in front of two guys at once... it is somewhat 
understandable that you worry about "chickening out."

Have a plan with Larry before you return to the room.  
As soon as you enter the room, leave the guys alone and 
go into the bathroom for some last minute "freshening 
up."  Actually, you should take advantage of this time 
to give yourself a last minute douche so your pussy is 
as fresh and clean as possible.  While you are in the 
bathroom, remove ALL of your clothes.  You may want to 
plan ahead, and have a sexy negligee or gown to put on.

Have Larry primed to start removing his clothes as soon 
as you leave and close the bathroom door.  He can 
encourage the other guy to remove his clothes too.  You 
might want to have some wine or other liquor in the 
room so Larry can fix each of you a drink while they 
are waiting.  Let the guys remain standing... or 
sitting on chairs (not the bed) before you come out.  
Larry may even want to turn down the lights... or just 
have a few candles lit.

When you come out of the bathroom in your negligee or 
gown... and nothing else... smile at both guys, and 
then give Larry a big kiss.  Encourage Larry to have a 
drink waiting for you.  Depending upon your comfort 
level, you may want to give the other guy a kiss... and 
you may want to wrap your hand around one or both of 
their bare cocks.  If you do that, believe me, you WILL 
NOT CHICKEN OUT!  Things will go well from there.

If... at this point... you do not feel sufficiently 
comfortable, let your necking just be with Larry, and 
let yourself melt into his nude body.  He can take that 
as a sign that you want him to lead things from there.  
He can gently lay you on the bed (hopefully toward the 
middle), and can begin opening your gown and making 
love to you.  If you choose, you can be relatively 
passive.  Believe me the other guy... if he is alive 
and red-blooded... will join the two of you on the bed, 
and will begin to join Larry in caressing and making 
love to you.  

Worst case scenario... you remain passive, and let the 
guys be the aggressors.  There is NO reason to expect 
anything to get "ugly."  If necessary... let Larry do 
the leading.  However, as mentioned above, its your 
body.  If you have given yourself a reasonable 
opportunity to become comfortable, and you decide 
things are not working... just whisper to Larry that 
things must stop.  I am sure Larry will heed your 
request (in favor of a better next time), and will 
politely invite the other guy to leave.  


4.   How do I assure Larry that I love him... and only 
him... if I go through with it and find it enjoyable?  
I'm afraid that if I do like it - no, LOVE it - I could 
start babbling something that I might later regret.  

I love to talk while Larry and I are making love, and 
am so afraid that I will get caught up in the "moment" 
and say something like, "Oh yeah Baby, that's the best 
fuck I ever had."   Even though I wouldn't mean it, I 
might say it... and I know I would regret it.  

Joan's Reply -

Just keep in mind that whatever good feelings you 
experience while another guy is joining you and Larry, 
they are pleasures and experiences that LARRY is giving 
you... the extra guy is a "gift" from (or allowed by) 
Larry... and the "best fuck" or elevated levels of 
orgasmic pleasure have only happened because Larry gave 
them to you.  That way, your mind will stay focused 
primarily on Larry during your three-way lovemaking.

Don't worry that you will enjoy a threesome TOO MUCH.  
You SHOULD enjoy it a great deal.  Remember, your 
pleasures are intentionally being DOUBLED.  That was 
Larry's plan from the beginning.  Four hands, two 
mouths, two cocks... and all with you as the center of 
their attention!

How do you assure Larry that you love him... even at 
these times?  Just keep telling him.  Tell him even 
while the other guy is plowing your brains out.  
Sometimes during your threesome, let Larry hold you in 
his arms and neck with him while the other guy is 
eating or screwing you... and whisper into Larry's ears 
that you love him and what he is allowing you to enjoy 
right then.  Tell him what sensations you are 
experiencing right then.  Believe me, he wants to know.  
He wants to know how you are responding to the 
situation... to the other guy's tongue... to the other 
guy's techniques... to the feel of a new cock within 
your body.  Most guys are voyeurs.  Most guys TRULY 
ENJOY watching "their woman" being pleasured by another 
guy.

The only thing to avoid is verbal comparisons.  
Obviously, it would be poor form to say, "Larry, his 
cock is so much bigger/thicker than yours."  However, 
if you really do sense a different feeling within you 
when one or the other of them screws you; later you can 
always share with Larry that you enjoyed the different 
feel... the different techniques that the two guys 
showered on you.  Different is good!   Again, you got 
to experience that "difference" because Larry made it 
(allowed it to) happen.  It was his gift!

When the new guy leaves, shower Larry with lots of 
kisses and oral attention... and renew your 
proclamations of love to him.  Thank him for making 
your first threesome possible and wonderful.


5.   The problem of AIDS and other sexual diseases is a 
real concern to me.   The thought of this could be one 
of my reasons for "chickening out."

Joan's Reply -

A reasonable concern.  Lets put things in perspective.  
You could contract AIDS from just about any guy you 
have sex with.  For that matter, you could contract it 
if you ever need a blood transfusion.  Now that doesn't 
mean that you should throw caution to the wind.  
Rather, you need to exercise discretion in ALL of your 
sexual contacts... to reduce the likelihood of 
contracting any sexually-transmitted disease.

Larry... bless his heart... could occasionally get some 
outside sexual "relief."  For that matter, you could 
too!  As it is, technically, you are now "sleeping with 
every partner Larry has ever had."   And, he is 
sleeping with every partner you have ever slept with 
(ButtHead), and every partner ButtHead ever slept with 
before you and he separated.  There could already be 
lots of history in your bed!

The only way to eliminate risk is to eliminate sex in 
your life.  Short of that extreme approach, you will 
want to exercise judgment in who you and Larry bring to 
your bed.  Gay guys, and guys who are actively bi- have 
a higher risk of bringing things to your bed.  Guys who 
use intravenous drugs are not a good risk to bring into 
your bed.

This is one of the reasons the pre-go-to-the-room 
meeting in the bar is a good idea.  Use that time to 
ask questions.  You could almost ask the questions in a 
way that suggests you guys really enjoy "getting high" 
occasionally.  See what kind of responses you get.  If 
he admits to enjoying marijuana occasionally, that's no 
big deal.  On the other hand, if he enthusiastically 
responds to your seeming interest in drugs... and says 
he enjoys harder stuff... say good bye.  If he 
indicates that he has had a lot (not just once or 
twice) of experience giving/getting sexual pleasure 
from guys... say good bye.

As you see how the guy is dressed, and learn some info 
about his lifestyle, you can judge for yourself if he 
brings unreasonable risks to your bed.  Again, if so... 
say goodbye.

Otherwise, just keep in mind that all sexual 
interaction brings with it some risks.  You can always 
insist on a condom the first few times... if you still 
feel uncertain.  While you are dancing, or once you are 
all in bed, you may get a clue about this guy's 
personal hygiene... or any deficiencies there.  If so, 
end the session.

If you have made a conscious effort to exercise good 
judgment in your selection of another guy, your risks 
should be minimal.  Enjoy yourself!


6.  Finally, what is YOUR suggestion to my concerns?   
Am I too concerned to even try a threesome?  I want to, 
but I have all of these questions and worries.  What 
would you do if you were me?   Would it be better to 
not have "sexual relations" (as defined by the 
President! Haha) with another man the first time?   I 
have thought about that.  Maybe just oral sex at first.  
What do you think?   

Joan's Reply -

You do have an interesting variety of concerns and 
worries.  But, I don't think any of them are unusual.  
Now that you have honestly set your concerns and 
worries out on the table... and have at least 
considered my replies to them... I think you are ready 
to "go for it!" 

Sure.  You could limit your first encounter into 
threesome fun to shared oral pleasure.  That's doesn't 
necessarily eliminate health concerns... but it could 
reduce them.  I know several women who don't allow 
intercourse by the other guy during the first couple of 
times together... just shared oral pleasures.  They 
simply tell the guy that limitation before going to the 
room.  These same women usually move on to full 
screwing by the second or third meeting.  

Frankly, I don't think if makes any difference either 
way.  Oral sex can be fun too.  But, you may be missing 
something if you don't experience another guy's cock 
buried deep inside you while Larry holds you in his 
arms and necks with you.

Either way... it sounds to me like you are ready to 
move ahead with your first MFM threesome in one form or 
another.  I genuinely believe it is time for you to 
experience and enjoy some of the multiple-male-partner 
sex fun that I have so often experienced and enjoyed.  
Believe me, you are in for a treat! 

I sincerely hope you will keep me posted on your 
progress.  Write me with all the details soon after 
Larry and another guy treat you to your first 
threesome.




I am sorry again for being so long in writing back, and 
for this being such a long letter.   If I don't hear 
from you in the next week, I wish you a great Holiday 
season.

Love, Janie



NOTE from Joan:

It was March, 1999 before I again heard from Janie.  
She and Larry had already enjoyed four different MFM 
experiences... three with one guy, and once with a new, 
younger guy.

"I was real antsy that first time," she reported, "but 
both guys were very tender and moved slowly until I 
relaxed."

"The part I enjoyed most that first time was laying on 
my side facing Larry and necking with him while I felt 
the other guy's cock slowly enter my very wet pussy and 
gently slide in and out as Larry and I necked."

"Larry constantly reassured me, and hugged me tightly 
when my first new-cock-orgasm hit.  It was WONDERFUL!  
Both guys had already spent lots of time licking and 
sucking my pussy and clit earlier."

"We have been with him (Owen) two more times.  I have 
gotten so that I enjoy sucking them both, and letting 
them alternately screw me (tag-team style).  They can 
keep me going through orgasm after orgasm."

"We expect to get together with Owen some more.  He is 
married.  We meet him out of town during his various 
business trips.  He had been involved in MFM sex with 
another couple for a few months before we met... and he 
still occasionally gets together with them.  We don't 
see that as a problem.  He is very gentle."

"Last week we visited a nightclub in Shreveport and met 
another guy that we later got together with.  Fred is 
younger than Larry and I, but is a very accomplished 
lover.  I think that may have been a one-night thing, 
but I am sure we will try that nightclub again."

"Thanks Joan for your help.  You were right!  I really 
enjoy the new things Larry and I are trying.  Larry 
loves it too."

Your Friend Janie



 

