Why Toddlers Like Poopy Diapers
By BabyInDiapers
Written on 03/25/2003
Disclaimer & Purpose
This is a phenomena that I've discovered through my reading of various
materials both off and on the Internet. Let me first say that this is not meant to
entertain, this is literally information just to prove a point that I have. This
document deals with toddlers in general and in no way does it constitute any
sexual activities between kids and adults. I thought I should clear that up since
this article will be published on a site that contains many fictional stories for
entertainment reasons. This is just an informative document to inform anyone
who reads it of the data I've gathered.
I should also say, that being an Adult Baby myself, I even now, in my
twenties, still find enjoyment and comfort from wetting and messing my
diapers. It is true that many of us find a portion of sexual stimulation from
this, but for the Adult Babies, most of it is an emotional security and
regression feeling. I am choosing to keep the sexuality out of this article since
toddlers aren't sexual developed beings. So no that I've laid this groundwork,
I will proceed.
Introduction
I noticed long ago from being around mothers with kids that children between
the ages of 18 months and 4 years old seemed to have something in common.
They enjoyed being in wet and messy diapers. I also noticed that infants (from
birth till 18 months) seemed to not like this at all. They would cry for there
mothers to change them. But, toddlers on the other hand, would go hide and
do there business and then go back to playing. Also they would just keep on
playing and only pause momentarily to go in their diapers.
Mommy's Thoughts and Ideas
When I began to notice this behavior difference from the infants to the
toddlers, I began to ask myself questions. I started to wonder if Adult Babies
got some of there first desires for diapers, during this stage in their lives. I
talked to a couple open-minded mothers with toddlers that were close friends
of mine. They knew that I was an active Adult Baby. I began to ask them if
they had noticed the same behavior patterns I had noticed, regarding enjoying
wet and messy diapers. The two mothers I talked to shared many stories with
me about countless times when there children wouldn't even let her change
them.
She said "My little one she'll do a load in her diaper and when I tell her it's
time to get changed she runs away. When I asked her why she didn't want to
be changed she bluntly said she liked going poo-poo in the diaper." She also
told me that she tried making a deal with her daughter to help the potty
training process. She would tell her daughter that if she could go number 1 in
the potty all day, that when she had to go number two her mom would change
her into a diaper and let her go in it and spend a few minutes in it. Now to
many this seems like an insane approach to potty training, but compromise
goes a long way, even with toddlers.
Then after she got her daughter to go number one, then she worked with her
on going number two in the potty. She said that she would reward her
daughter's efforts of making it to the potty for the whole week by letting her
spend Saturday's in diapers. On her special one-day diaper time, she was
allowed to go number 1 and 2, and her mom wouldn't change her until she
asked to be changed. Surprisingly, this didn't last more then 1 month and she
didn't even want to wear them any more. Her mom said that it was the best
method she'd ever used. Her daughter was fully trained at age three!
As for the other mother I talked to her approach was to train her daughter to
do 1 and 2 by standard potty training methods. But on weeks when she
showed improvement she was allowed to have 1 diaper day to go 1 and 2 if
she so desired. Although similar, this method required more work on the
child's part, and less reward then the earlier method.
And again, to my surprise, they both worked within the same amount of time.
Now looking back, I realize that each of those kids were different personality
types and that if those method's had been swapped, the results probably
wouldn't have worked as well as they did. So this says a lot to parents about
the personalities of different children.
As parents it's very important to observe and to understand your child's
personality traits, and emotional development.
Potty Training
There are four parts to a child's readiness to be potty trained. These are:
1.) Emotional Development
2.) Physical Development
3.) Personality Traits
4.) Sense of Security
For the remainder of this section I will elaborate on these four aspects of a
child's readiness for potty training. When all these are at the proper stage,
then your results are assured. Take some time to evaluate your child's
readiness based on these criteria.
Emotional Development is essential to your child's progress in getting out of
diapers.
You have to evaluate weather he or she is able to understand the concepts of
using the potty verses just going in your pants, so to speak. If a child does not
understand the reasoning behind this transition then it is useless to engage in
the training process.
Physical Development is the bottom line when it comes to training. Some
parents are in such a hurry to get there kids out of diapers and send them off to
daycare that they expect potty-training miracles! The muscles of the bladder
and bowels are not strong enough at one year of age to begin training. Also
the indication to your child that he or she has to "go" is related to the
development of the nerve endings in and around the muscles of the bladder.
Without indication of the fullness or the pressure on the child's bladder and
bowels, how can they begin to "hold it" and then release at a certain time.
There is no model of physical growth that guarantees that every child will be
ready to engage in the potty training experience at the same time. It takes time
for emotional and physical to come together.
If it were as simple as the emotional and physical development coming
together, then we'd be training kid's quite easy, but there are two very
important steps in a child's growth process that are still in need of cultivating
before they can achieve this goal.
Personality traits are the attributes, or aspects of a child's personality which
differentiates him or her from another child. Some children are commonly
referred to as "Strong Willed" children and some are more easy going. This is
due to the personality traits that make up the whole personality of the child.
To be successful in any endeavor, not just potty training, almost any parental
task, you need to be able to work with the child's personality. For instance if
you see that he or she is strong wiled then you need to setup reward systems
that will make them want to change there mind about there behaviors in order
for them to make up there mind to be trained. This is not to say that you give
the child anything he wants and put up with misbehavior, but that you should
take into consideration the personality before planning your parenting
methods and putting them into practice.
And now, my pet peeve! Sense of Security! This is where things can either go
wonderfully right, or horribly wrong when potty training. As an adopted child
who spent time in an orphanage and various foster homes until age 2, I can
attest to the importance of a sense of security and safety. This is so important
parents! You must love your children, even when you're tearing your hair out.
Even if your child is six years old and still wets and messes in his diaper, then
oh well. That doesn't give you the right to get mad at the child. If you have
older kids in diapers and it's not a physical reason, then you can rest assured
it's an emotional reason. Lets put it this way, your kid doesn't want to wear
pampers to kindergarten, due to peer pressure. But, if they are wearing
pampers to kindergarten then you need to ask yourself why? Not to point the
finger of blame at parents but these days people's priorities are mixed up. It
takes quality time to raise your kids. They need love, affection, a sense of
safety and security. That is getting harder to provide these days. Parents are
working more, daycare staff can't love your baby like you can. When kids feel
scared, or insecure, or not well cared for or attended to, prolonged diaper
wearing can be a sign of this. It doesn't mean that it is the sole reason for your
child's extended use of diapers, but in some cases it can be.
Here are some things that can remedy these problems. Hug your children, rock
them if there still willing to sit in your lap. Sing to them, read to them, change
there messy diapers even when they're five if you have to, but for the love of
Pete, be active in your child's life and make sure they know beyond a shadow
of a doubt that you love them, and that they are important to you.
Other Reasons for Toddlers and older children wearing diapers.
Lots of kids have bedwetting issues, some dissipate early in childhood, some
stop wetting around age 10, and yet some others wet the bed as teens but then
stop after they are adults. And some, like me, still wear diapers to bed. So,
parents, once your kid is old enough to change his or her diaper, you're off the
hook, but if they are still fairly young and still going 1 and 2 in there diaper,
then you'll be doing the same amount of diaper changing as a family with
triplets! But hey, you love them, so why not pamper them!
Conclusion
Well for the ending, I guess I would say, parents, try your best to teach your
kids right from wrong. Be patient as they make mistakes. If they never potty
train, don't worry. It's not the end of the world. Toddlers like poopy diapers,
just because its mushy in the tushy and that's a known fact LOL. Children at
that age are more sensitive on there bottoms then up front by the genital area.
This is factual information, do a search online and you'll read various
parenting resources that do mention this.
But on a serious note, most kids will be out of diapers by the time they start
pre-school, and many more by the time they start kindergarten. And any
remaining in diapers, will probably be over it at some point in there
childhood. Also a note, if you wind up having a child that wants to be a baby,
then that doesn't mean you weren't a good parent. Some people, like myself,
just love diapers and baby stuff. It's not a big deal really.
I hope this has helped parents to understand some issues with diapers and why
toddlers like them so much. Some doctors and people that work with kids say
"no kids don't like diapers they are yucky." But if you want my opinion, it's
the daycare workers and nurses that don't want to wipe your precious little
darling's poopy little hiney!
Although this article used a sense of humor, a lot of the topics were serious
and parents should take it to heart. If anyone has comments, questions, please
email me! I'll be glad to further help anyone with there questions.
Oh, and HAPPY DIAPER CHANGING :)