Archive-name: Miscell/gigolo.txt
Archive-author: Adam Starchild
Archive-title: How to Become a Gigolo

                    
    There's no other line of "work" as pleasurable and as
overflowing with opportunities to enjoy luxury, travel
and riches as that of the gigolo.  And believe it or
not, today it is easier than ever for a man to enjoy
life as a gigolo!
    To become a successful gigolo and enjoy the benefits of
this kind of life, you must develop and project the
proper way of thinking.  There's a great difference
between a "male prostitute" and a gigolo.
    The male prostitute makes himself available to all
women of all ages, generally concentrating on bored,
frustrated and "exploring" housewives looking for extra
loving as well as variety to satisfy their sex needs.  This
type of woman is very easy to spot, and even easier to take
to bed.  It makes of a lot of, and a variety of beautiful
sex, but it's all for free.  You have to know precisely how
to cultivate these women to start, and then get them to
continue paying you for each time you "service" them -- not
just the loan of a few dollars -- which you never intend to
pay back -- but $50 or $100 plus expenses for each tryst
you arrange with them.
    The gigolo concentrates his efforts on making himself
available to widows and wives of busy businessmen who
really don't care what their wives do, so long as they
don't become emroiled in a public scandal.  These women
range in age from about 45, on into their 80s.
    So the first thing you're going to have to do is stop
looking for ladies at or about your own age.  Dress
yourself more neatly, more stylishly, and begin
"hanging around" the places these women frequent.
    You'll find very few in church!  Those that you do find
in church will want to possess you, and somehow or
other steer you to the altar.  You'll find most of them
in night classes at your local college; in
self-improvement, self-awareness, and new life-style
classes; and of course, in all the better class supper
clubs and hotel type lounges.
    Relative to evening college courses and
self-improvement discussion groups -- these are your
easiest and most fertile "hunting grounds," because
psychologists long ago proved that the basic reason for
adult enrollment in self-improvement programs is
directly related to a person's need to be loved.  All
you have to do is understand this basic fact, and make
yourself available to fulfill the needs of the women
enrolled in these programs.
    Your best opportunities for "being picked by a live
one" at a supper club or hotel lounge will occur
between 4 and 9 in the afternoon and evening; and
between 12 midnight and closing time.
    If you want to be a successful gigolo, play it cool and
don't advertise that you're on the make.  Become
friends with the class instructors, discussion leaders,
club managers, bartenders and waitresses.  In
conversations, exhibit the depth and scope of your mind
by discussing at greater length the subjects being
presented, current events and your own experiences as
you would have them relate to those topics.
    Yes, your own experiences such as: last year when I was
in Paris or Rome or wherever.  Try to tie your own
contributions to the conversation in with the subject
being discussed.  If you haven't been there, a visit to
your public library and frequent perusal of the travel
magazines should give you all the background
information you need to carry on an acceptable
conversation about exotic other places and your
intention to visit them.
    When a woman seems to be "overhearing" your discussion
or joins in, welcome her and project to her that you
think she's intelligent, knowledgeable and an
authority.  Nver -- even if you're talking about sex --
size these women up or let on in any way that your
ulterior motive is to get in bed with them.  Know
something about these countries -- you don't want to
sound like a crass boorish oaf.
    Be friendly and courteous to them.  Be sympathetic to
their points of view.  If you want to disagree with
what they say, do so with the utmost thought, respect
and compassion for their feelings.  It's generally
better to cater to their opinions with agreement,
understanding and tact.
    Allow these women to come to you.  Do not chase them or
give them any hint that you're looking for them, or a
woman of their type.  Do not initiate a conversation.
Make yourself available -- play hard-to-get.  Let the
woman exercise her independence and feelings of making
her own selection.
    This means that unless she's really "turned on by the
radiance of your personality," or else quite desperate,
she will not "pick you up" on this first meeting.  But
don't despair -- have patience and continue your
display of intelligence, good manners and charm. If
you've done as instructed -- cleaned your nails and
shined your shoes -- you've got her interested and
she'll keep an eye on you, especially when you're with,
around, or talking with other women.
    Whether you're in the company of a special lady you've
been cultivating, in a group of men and women, or
stting at the bar with a woman close by -- always try
to sit next to a woman or be in a group that will
include women -- put off ordering another drink.  Don't
volunteer by asking if you could buy the lady a drink,
and don't rush to pick up the tab.  Let the woman do
the volunteering, the asking, and the paying.  If she
won't do it, another one will, and when one woman
recognizes that to "get to you," she's going to have to
pay, they'll all see and understand, and quickly fall
into line.  Those that don't aren't the ones you should
be spending your time on anyway.
    Whenever a lady strikes up a conversation with you, let
her bne the aggressor and ask the questions about you:
Don't you ask the usual -- what does your husband do;
where are you from, and/or what do you do for
excitement.  You should set the stage, lead her into
asking these questions of you, and volunteering this
kind of information about herself.  Don't volunteer
this information about yourself, nor be impatient to
learn the facts of her background.  She'll ask the
proper questions and tell you all about herself, when
she's ready to consider taking you on as her gigolo.
    If you must initiate the conversation or say something
to take up the slack in a conversation, say things such
as this weather reminds me of my trip to Rome last
year; or you know, the shine from your hair and that
gorgeous style reminds me of my hairdresser friend in
Paris.  Never start a sentence with a question.  Make a
statement about some romantic playground first, and
then if she doesn't follow through with qestions ahout
your statement, you might casually ask if she's ever
been there or wanted to vist the places you're talking
about.
    Remember this:  These women are usually very wealthy,
bored and sexually starved.  Their men, in their
struggle to become rich, often neglect their connubial
duties, and die relatively young -- leaving rich widows
who are hungry for fun, excitement, and sex.  These
wealthy widows are not adverse to using their late
husband's accumulated money to pay for the services of
a gigolo.  Most are in fact, looking for the "right
man" to attend their needs, regardless of cost!
    Gigolos are sometimes hired as travelling companions,
business secretaries or escorts.  Some people chuckle
and refer to an older woman's beau as "her stud."
    Actually, the connotation of a "stud" is a misnomer,
because the dictionary defines a stud as a male animal
used, or available, for breeding purposes.  Although
the women paying for the services of a gigolo almost
always is paying "her gigolo" for sex whenever she's in
the mood, or feels the need for sex, to give her good
sex is certainly not the extent of his duties, nor does
the woman expect her gigolo to make her pregnant and
bring forth babies.
    On the contrary, most gigolos are either sterile from
natural causes or have had vacsectomies.  You'll find
that most of the women you'll be meeting as a gigolo
will insist on your being sterile.
    Most people also think of a gigolo -- or a stud, if you
will -- as having a "foot long cock as big around as a
stove pipe!"  Such is not the case!  Most gigolos have
only average size tools.  They are very good lovers
though.  They've made a practice of reading women to
the point that they know exactly what turns on the
woman they're with, and they pull out all the stops to
please her precisely as she wants to be pleased.
    A good gigolo is a good listener, a good talker, fun
for a woman to be with, an actor, a real charmer, and a
good lover.  The women wanting you as a gigolo crave
companionship, understanding, romance, and sex.  In
essence, a gigolo must know what to do and/or say, and
precisely when to do it or say it, in order to satisfy
the needs of the woman he's with, at all times.
    A real gigolo, one who actually lives the life of a
gigolo in every sense of the word, does not pay for any
of his expenses.  He 5receives handsome rewards and
large sums of money for his services.  An outsider
might be flabbergasted at the amount of money a woman
spends on her gigolo, but she considers it a pittance
when weighed with the pleasures she receives from his
charming company.  Her dreams and fantasies may
continue for many years after their relationship ends,
but always -- she'll want to do it all over again, and
spend every time that's necessary to make it happen
just like it did before...
    Large cities in all parts of the world, particularly
resort communities abroad, are often the best places
for a gigolo adventure.  Cities where there are more
women than men are where you should be operating --
particularly the retirement villages.  In this country,
go where the sun shines -- Florida, Texas, Arizona, and
Southern California.
    Never talk too much about yourself -- your past life or
specifically where you were born and raised, went to
school, former marriages, kids, and so on.  It would be
wise to have a quality engraved business card listing
your name and phone number with a message such as
"world-wide trveler, lover of the better things in
life...Call me anytime..."
    Remember our earlier advice: Play it cool... Go slow,
and let them come to you...When the opportunity
presents itself and the lady wants to know what you do
or where you're from, you can present her with your
card.  From that moment on, you'll be pleasantly
surprised how the word will spread and at the number of
ladies that will be calling you just to talk to you...
    Your best approach should not be too blunt, or too
direct, unless your intuition tells you this particular
woman wants it that way.  By the same token, don't be
too timid either.  Very few women want men who are
timid, and that they have to tell what to do.  Let it
be known that you're available, remembering that you
have to cultivate the friendship of these women who
will do almost anything to ease their boredom and
longing for male company.
    The gigolos way of life is not for all men.  Some are
psychologically unable to accept the idea of a woman
footing the bills for friendship, companionship and
"dream-like" lovemaking sessions in her bed.  Any man
wanting success as a gigolo had better get rid of these
kinds of "hang-ups" or else forget about life as a
gigolo.
    Most rich widows have received their riches from a
working husband.  These riches were bestowed upon them
by men.  Now, they have no man to talk to, to shre
their travel experiences to faraway and exotic places
with, and to enjoy the pleasures of sex with...
    They feel they have the right to bestow these riches
upon whatever man they choose, and every one of them
will spend whatever price it takes to attain some
measure of happiness, romance, understanding,
companionship, and loving.  Even the rich and famous
have difficulties satisfying these basic human needs.
As a gigolo, you can provide all of these intangibles
for them, and live like a king while you're doing it.
    If you feel you have the necessary attributes needed by
a successful gigolo, do not just fantasize -- live them
now, and live them all the way!
    Travel, luxury, and easily obtained riches can be
yours.  If you're tired of resenting the sexual success
of other men, stop resenting and start doing.
    Enjoy everything you've always dreamed of...  travel,
luxury, money... And all the good sex you can handle.

                  About the Author
    Adam Starchild is the author of over a dozen books and
hundreds of magazine articles, primarily on business
and finance.

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