Re: Tips? Wednesday, 10-Dec-97 00:33:24

Find another. There are plenty of women willing to trample a guy. Just ease them into it gradually. Start off with a Japanese massage/ backwalking and go from there. Most women I've had a relationship with rather enjoy it once they know it won't hurt you. And do what makes them happy too. Massages with lotion, leg rubs/foot massage, etc. Sure it takes a few weeks or so sometimes, but it's worth it. If a woman is a few years older than yourself, they tend to feel more comfortable in a dominating sort of role. I've had several different girlfriends at different times in my life, and although almost all will get into this, if they are over about 30, they tend to be more receptive and seem to enjoy it themselves more. Find someone you're attracted to for other reasons. Going back to the 'ex' is hardly ever a long term solution. Ask yourself why you are now an 'ex' --that tends to make it a little easier. Then start looking, carefully. The woman you are seeking is more likely to be in church, a friend of a friend, or a neighbor; than in a bar or classified ad. Good Luck