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 An A-Z of Gentle Paedophilia.
   Foreword.
   'An A-Z of Gentle Paedophilia', as the title suggests, focuses on the
more sensitive and non-violent type of sex with children.  Because of the
nature of this type of paedophilia, the text at times may insinuate debate
on whether it is necessarily 'wrong'.  However, the reader is strongly
requested to abide by law, and keep such things in the realm of fantasy. 
It is written largely from the point of view of the male adult who is
attracted to girl-children.
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   ANAL PENETRATION
   Many paedophiles, even where loving and gentle with the child, will
nevertheless have a desire to penetrate her/him anally.  In the case of a
little girl, it may be seen as a more attainable consummation than the
vagina.  Although still unequivocally regarded as a heinous sexual abuse,
the gentle child-lover goes about it carefully and sensibly to avoid injury
to the child.  He relies on tentative prodding and pressure with a very
stiff penis to breach her sphincter, facilitated by the use of lubrication,
and needs only a partial penetration for the satisfaction of ejaculating in
her rectum.
   BUM-LICKING
   Many paedophiles find this a most profound way to express their sexual
feelings towards a child, not least because their bums seem such a cute
feature, but also because no pain is caused.  Kissing is a basic way to
show affection, and the buttocks of a child are tender and appealing for
this.  Further intimacy can be had by licking them, or inside the crack
itself.  The man may feel this brings a feeling of humility to him,
offsetting his adult dominance, whilst the child may find it amusing, which
offsets her feelings of victimization.
   CLIT-PLAY
   It is self-evident that prepubescent girls have clitorises, but that
they can respond to some extent to stimulation is a fact many may not be
aware of.  For the knowledgeable and thoughtful paedophile, this truth
provides a means to allow a girl-child to feel sensual pleasure and thus
soften her experience of premature sexing.  It is also a satisfying way for
the man to achieve intimacy with her and enjoy her body, either by using
his fingers or mouth.  The hairless vulva in all its miniature detail is
for many the essence of a female child.
   DOGGY-GRIND
   This is a favoured activity for non-invasive, non-painful paedophile
sex, in which the man squats behind the child and grinds himself against
her rear end.  Any temptation he may feel to attempt vaginal or anal
penetration is resisted, and he relies on friction, motion, and the
eroticism of the position itself to bring him satisfaction.  If carried out
in good spirit and not too roughly, the child may see it more as an
amusement than an unpleasant depravity.  Many variants are possible to the
kneeling position, such as having her lean over furniture.
   EDUCATION
   The gentle style of sexually molesting a child can be seen in many ways
as simply `educating' her.  The sessions will often have the tone of
patient teaching, and the natural teacherly authority of the adult is
exploited in inducting her into ever more intimate knowledge.  If the
molester is skilled, he may let her questions [cf] direct the very actions
taken, such as ejaculating for her if she asks a man helps to create a
baby. In this way she may steadily learn the very essence of sex, with her
feelings of victimization minimalized.
   FACIAL
   Whilst this is essentially non-violent, the act of ejaculating on a
child's face may nevertheless cause her some distress and humiliation.  In
a sense, it is a compromise between an empathetic affection for her and
abandonment to immoral lust.  Highly ambiguous and varied in male
motivation, as well in the emotional effects on the child, it is a
favourite act of gentle or violent paedophiles alike.  It may be a reaction
to her sheer lovableness of face, or a dark desire to abuse.  A kind
paedophile may do it in lieu of sodomizing her mouth.
   GROOMING
   This has become the psychological watchword for paedophile offences, on
the basis that the man befriends the child with the intent to commit sexual
abuses.  However, much of the process of `grooming' is indistinct from
genuine affection, and is by nature gentle.  Whilst the motivations of the
man will rarely be completely sinister, with most it is a dichotomy of
illicit lust and love.  Only the most closed-minded would say a child and
an adult cannot be `friends', and this aspect is often valued by a
paedophile.  He may wonder if it can be extended to non-hurtful sex.
   HAND-JOB
   For any man who has intense sexual feelings towards children, but also a
heartfelt wish not to hurt them, the act of being masturbated by them seems
an excellent outlet.  He can enjoy a most intimate tactile interaction -
the child's hand around his penis - and express himself to the point of
orgasm, if he so desires.  The child needs only to cope with the eroticism
of the act - the erection, semen, the man's emotions - and can easily learn
the skill of doing it.  Furthermore, it is feasible for a child as young as
4, say.
   INCEST
   This will often be the setting for the gentler type of paedophile sex,
in that a little girl's father, older brother or uncle may well be her
molester.  The sexual urge of the male relative may be felt as an extension
- or `complication' - of his basic love for her.  In other words, the blood
tie remains, and he hates to hurt her, but he does desire sexual intimacy
with her.  Indeed, with the relationship crossing the double-taboo boundary
of paedophilia and incest, it may be profoundly and uniquely arousing.  Its
ultimate expression would be in impregnation.
   JUSTIFICATION
   Many paedophiles feel the need to justify not only their sexual
attraction to children, but also the putting into practise of it.  Many
truly want to believe that it is not an evil, and that it is possible to
pursue considerable eroticism with the underage without harm.  Some
arguments are as follows: she is not hurt; she enjoyed it; she has to learn
sooner or later; consent is not necessary (ie successful arranged
marriages); children are made to do many things they don't enjoy; I (the
adult) deserve it; why should females have all the power?
   KISSING
   Since this is such a basic way of showing affection, a gentle type of
child-lover will often want to express himself by it.  This may range from
light-hearted `pecks' on the face, tummy or feet, to lingering kisses on
the chest or vagina.  Facial kissing is a high likelihood, since a child's
face itself is often extremely cute to any adult, epitomizing her
loveliness and innocence.  Mouth-kissing may mark the point at which
actions are truly paedophilic, and may be experienced by the adult as an
exquisite way to express his dual feelings of love and lust.
   LAP-PLAY
   This is particularly a feature of paedophiles' interactions with
children at the lower end of the age-range, say 3 to 8.  Their size lends
itself to it, and it focuses the adult's feelings of
protectiveness-with-lust.  It is commonly (arguably) a perfectly innocent
situation - a loved child sitting in the lap of an older relative - yet can
so easily cross over into 'impropriety'.  It is a gentle position, yet also
controlling, capturing perfectly the emotional blend of much paedophilia.
Groping, outside or inside clothing, is easy.  It may also be the subtle,
early ways the child senses an erect penis.
   MUTUAL MASTURBATION
   In `clit-play' and `hand-job', the qualities of masturbation given or
received by the paedophile were discussed.  It is perfectly feasible for
this to be done simultaneously, and such a session reinforces the sexual
nature of the relationship between adult and child, especially if done
nude. It can go a long way towards `normalizing' the relationship [below],
and conditioning the girl to non-penetrative intimacy, but also building
towards penetrative (if careful fingering into the child's vaginal passage
is included).  Mutual masturbation can be a lesson in the very essence of
sex: receiving as well as giving pleasure.
   NORMALIZATION
   This word encapsulates the deep-rooted wish for many a paedophile, even
if they do not realise it themselves.  They wish for sexual encounters with
children to be undertaken as willingly as possible by them, and even
enjoyed.  For this they must not only be unhurt, physically, but most also
feel that there is nothing wrong being done.  Sometimes a skilled
paedophile may actively work to make the child believe it is a `normal' way
of life, and they sometimes themselves believe it.  It could indeed be
argued that child-sex taboos are simply cultural constructs, with the
potential to be 'de'constructed.
   ORAL SEX
   Clit-play [cf] and bum-licking [cf] are obviously parts the canon of
oral sex, both of which may be given without undue intimidation for the
child, and even considerably enjoyed by her.  The sucking of penis (done to
the adult), however, commonly presents a hurdle to a child's willing
participation in intimacy.  Depending on her age and temperament and the
way it is enforced, it presents varying levels of uncertainty, anxiety,
disgust or outright distress.  Yet there is often nothing even the gentlest
paedophile desires more, so his challenge is to accustom her to it as best
he may.
   PRAISING
   Praise is a common means by which an adult encourages a child in any
context, sexual molestation being no exception.  It is important where the
paedophile wishes to `nurture' rather than simply force the child into a
sex life, and is vital to her acquiring positive feelings about it wherever
possible.  Examples include praising aspects of her looks, and repeatedly
calling her princess, sweetie or an angel.  At certain milestones, such as
taking an ejaculation in the mouth or being penetrated, he may tell her she
has done well or call her a clever girl, or a big girl.
   QUESTIONS
   The most willing participation in sexual activity by a child will tend
to be acquired through harnessing her/his natural curiosity, especially the
younger the age.  It may be said the issue reduces to whether the child's
curiosity overrides her sense of immorality and reluctance.  To this end,
any session of molestation may be `steered' by the adult according to
questions the child asks.  For example, if she asks how a baby is made, it
is easy to imagine how this may lead to such things as nudity and
introducing her to an erect penis.
   ROMPING
   This verb, meaning to `play energetically' (especially of a child), or
to engage in sex (especially illicit), seems perfect to use to describe the
general frolicking naked which a paedophile adult may do with child.  It
encapsulates perhaps tickling on the bed, kissing, genital fondling, joking
and shows of sweet affection erotically expressed.  It accustoms the child
to nudity and intimacy in as positive way as possible, couching the whole
in an atmosphere of love.  Such habits make it possible for the more carnal
matters of oral sex or vaginal penetration to be achieved light-heartedly.
   SEMEN
   It is possible that a child in the clutches of a mild type of paedophile
may never be aware of 'cum', if all he ever does is molest her in a clothed
way, such as jiggling himself to orgasm with her on his lap.  Most,
however, will crave full and frank intimacy with the child, involving
nudity and unconcealed ejaculation.  This presents the challenge of not
distressing or repelling the child, if he wishes to keep her morale
positive.  For example, she will likely need a substantial period of
accustomization before being expected to cope with swallowing semen.
   TICKLING
   This may be one of the bread and butter ways in which a gentle
paedophile engages physically with a child.  In itself, an innocent act, it
can provide a bridge to more sexual contact.  Tickles on the chest may
proceed to inside clothing, whereupon the man enjoys groping a preteen
girl's flatness there, yet she may still not differentiate it from the
basic frolics of before.  More significantly, general tickles may easily
morph into rooting into the girl's knickers.  Innocent tickling may also be
a kind of counterpoint, maintaining affection, to hard-core molestation
already underway.
   UNCLOTHED
   There can be no two ways about it - an adult with paedophile
inclinations, whether aggressive or gentle, relishes a child devoid of
clothing.  Achieving sessions of molestation where she is naked, or at
least getting to `see' her naked, will therefore feature highly in the
adult's aims.  Her slimness, smoothness of flesh, lack of development, and
the smallness of her private parts are seen as exquisite by him.  Also, the
adult may be very excited by displaying his own nudity to the child, the
revealing of an erection being particularly significant.  A gentle
paedophile paces the process carefully, however.
   VULVAL GRIND
   As with doggy-grind [cf], this is a simple but effective way for a
paedophile to `simulate' full sex with a child.  It is specific of course
to a girl-child, and substituting for vaginal intercourse, the passion and
thrust of which is prohibitive with prepubescent anatomy.  The man may
undertake it seated, or in missionary position with the girl, both of which
evoke traditional adult sex.  The man grinds the underside of his penis in
the crotch of the child, but does not penetrate.  The motions may be
extremely `realistic', and the sensations pleasing, taking him all the way
to climax.
   WILLINGNESS
   The idyllic state of affairs for many non-violent paedophiles is to
enjoy a sexual relationship with a child who is a willing participant in
it. A child `instigating' sexual encounters, or behaving in a way beyond
her years, may be seen as a thrill indeed.  True sexual willingness in a
preteen may be elusive, as she cannot possibly have a fully-developed sex
drive or an in-depth understanding of a sex life.  However, she may express
much curiosity and gain substantial pleasure from certain aspects of sex,
and these will be exploited to the full by the gentle adult.
   XPLORATION
   Molestations carried out by a non-aggressive paedophile will often have
the tone of `explorations', especially where adult and child are of
opposite sex.  He harnesses the girl's natural curiosity, and his status as
an authority figure and teacher, to allow her to feel that she is
discovering and learning.  This typically develops from introducing her to
his nudity, letting her see and handling his penis, and discover how it
becomes stiff and ejaculates.  In a sense she is also exploring herself, as
she experiences clit-play [cf], or discovers that her vagina and anus can
be penetrated.
   YEARNING
   This emotion is arguably more specific to a gentle paedophile than a
violent one.  The former's desires are by nature milder and often have a
`romantic' orientation, in that he feels he loves the child or wishes to be
`in love' with her.  His fantasies may well extend to an exclusive
relationship with her, marriage or - when she is old enough - impregnating
her.  In short, it is love and lust, not merely lust that he feels.  Such
thoughts and feelings are more complex than the mere desire to rape and
sodomize which characterizes some paedophiles.
   ZARA LARSSON
   A girl who won Sweden's `Got Talent 2008', at the age of 11, and who at
that time would have been the dream of many a cultured type of paedophile,
or indeed paedophiles in general.  Such an age is seen by many as the very
apex of a girl's childhood, and her blonde looks would have caused the
secret arousal of many adult men.  Visit link below:
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/a/a5/Zara_Larsson.jpg
   At the time of writing, she is 17 and is arguably even more appealing,
depending on the degree of a man's orientation to the various age-groups of
female.  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zara_Larsson
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   I invite feedback and discussion in email to ep1968@hotmail.co.uk.
   Would you have chosen a different word anywhere?  
  
An A-Z of Gentle Paedophilia