The New and Improved Debbi
All of the following correspondence was during 2001.
All their thoughts leading up to, and ultimately sharing sexual pleasures with others.

3-041-1: Chapter 1 - .9 pages.   Initial correspondence about Debbi’s thoughts leading up to her agreement with her husband (Marc) to try an MFM threesome.  

3-041-2: Chapter 2 – 12 pages.  When an opportunity for a foursome arose before their planned threesome, they went for it… and thoroughly enjoyed themselves.

3-041-3: Chapter 3 - 19 pages.  Marc’s thoughts on their first venture into extra-partner sex.  Then Debbi’s first threesome, when she and her girl friend doubled up on her friend’s husband… for his pleasure.

3-041-4: Chapter 4 - 14 pages.  An FMF night for Marc, and Debbi’s planning of a “Big Surprise” night when Marc can enjoy their 18-year-old babysitter.

3-041-5: Chapter 5 - 16 pages.  Debbi’s first actual MFM threesome.  She said “It was a glorious night!!!”

3-041-6 Chapter 6 - 8 pages.   More developments in their “new shared life.”  Allison gets on the pill.  Joan also relates an experience she had in the snow.

3-041-7: Chapter 7 - 10 pages.  Debbi and Marc tell about a new guy in Debbi's life, and they get ready for their trip to Spain.

3-041-8: Chapter 8 - 8 pages.  Along the way to Spain.  Meeting new Spanish friends, and a less-than-favorable experience for Debbi.

3-041-9A: Chapter 8 - 14 pages.  Marc sets up a special experience for Debbi… with four young Spanish guys.

3-041-9B: Chapter 9 - 11 pages. “A Night With Our Babysitter.” Marc finally gets his surprise weekend, an FMF with Debbi and their 18-year-old virgin babysitter. 

The following story is comprised of a series of letters (principally between Debbi and Joan [the Dear Abby of threesome sex fun]) that began on January 12, 2001.  All names have been changed, at Debbi's request.

The correspondence was actually initiated a few weeks earlier by Debbi's husband.  He had written to seek advice on how to spice up the sex life between he and his wife.  He eventually had his wife correspond directly with Joan.

Debbi, a college graduate, is a part-time schoolteacher, and full-time mom and homemaker.  Marc (her husband) has an MBA, and is a very successful sales manager for a technical instruments company.  He was 38 when this story began, and she was 36.  They were married when Marc was 25 and Debbi was 23.

Debbi likes to point out that her husband's cock "is a legitimate 8" from belly to tip."  At the time this story was written their daughter was 9, and their son was 7.

Chapter 1

Dear Joan
 
I don't know why I'm doing this. My husband (Marc) insists that I write you about my resistance to three-way sex.
 
Would I like a three-way?  Yes, I think so.  Marc apparently doesn't know it, but I REALLY love to fuck.  Marc makes me cum, and many times he gives me multiple orgasms, but I'm never quite as satisfied as I would like to be.

I'm going to be very candid with you. I'm scared to death of what might come of this. Suppose I fall in love with this other partner. Suppose he satisfies me better than Marc. Suppose all I want is this new partner.  The stories you sent us were all about the feelings
 
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Dear "Debbi"...

You sound like the perfect female candidate to enjoy MFM three-way fun.  First, you indicate that Marc gives you lots of pleasure.  Second, you indicate that you like to "fuck," and are "never quite as satisfied as (you) would like to be."  Third, you obviously have a husband who is encouraging you to try one or more threesome experiences.

Apparently the only hang-up is your fear that you may end up liking (or loving) the extra guy more than you love Marc.  Believe me, if you really love Marc now... an MFM experience will not change that.  

Sure, some other guy MAY give you more sexual satisfaction than Marc does.  More likely, THE SITUATION of having two guys give you pleasure is the thing that is likely to give you more sexual satisfaction than you get from Marc alone.  That is a good problem!  Keep in mind that that experience is one provided for you BY Marc... and he therefore gets all the credit of that special pleasure that you will be experiencing.

The "never quite as satisfied" part is what really leads me to believe you and Marc are perfect candidates for some great MFM experiences.  Frankly, most guys (in a one-on-one situation) can't begin to give sensual women (such as us) ALL the pleasure that we would like.  For that reason, many sensual women begin to have affairs, etc. in an attempt to "scratch that extra itch".  MFM threesomes... set up by the husband, and with his blessing... are a much more wholesome way to "scratch that extra itch" and provide new levels of feminine fulfillment for us.

Write me more about your "feelings."  That seemed to be what you were about to talk about.  Tell me your other thoughts and questions too.  Tell me how Marc hoped to set up an MFM experience for you.

I await hearing more from you.

Much love,

Joan

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01-01-17
Dear Joan

Thanks for responding to me.
  
The things you told me are in many ways the things Marc told me too, i.e. great satisfaction for me. Although I lied and told him he was all the satisfaction I needed. But it's not true, and I think he knows it.

You asked how he wanted to set it up. I don't know. I wouldn't let him get that far. And I have no idea with whom, although I do know a couple of men who I'm sure would volunteer. 

Do I dare?

Debbi

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01-01-17
Dear Debbi...

As I said earlier, virtually NO ONE MAN is really "enough" for a truly sensual woman.  And, it certainly is no sin to be a sensual woman!  So, if Marc "knows" that your comment (that he is "enough" for you) may be less than accurate... all the better.  It just helps make things easier for the two of you to move toward the SHARED FUN of MFM pleasure.

For some reason, God created woman with a sexual capacity that typically extends far beyond what one man can comfortably satisfy.  Men seem to have intense, brief sexual capacity... that, when augmented by another guy can allow a woman to experience sexual fulfillment at much higher levels.  Then, man number one can watch and enjoy the woman's pleasure as he rests, and then return to the action to add another round of pleasure to that receptive, sensual woman.

Also, when we women are in our 20s, we typically are less interested in exploring new sensual things (I wasn't, but I'm not typical).  Then our desire for sexual fulfillment tends to grow as we go through our later 20s, our 30s and 40s.  But men tend to have very high libidos from their late teens on... and their capacity for extended sex play often tends to dwindle as the years go by.  Strange how that works out.  But, because of that, that’s why many couples opt for exploring MFM fun.

It sounds like Marc would like you to join him in exploring MFM fun... and it sounds like (down deep) you know this could lead to some highly erotic experiences FOR BOTH OF YOU!

The men and women in too many couples choose to scratch their sexual curiosity itch through affairs.  While those who choose this route often have great momentary pleasure, they are often plagued by self-doubt and guilt after... and they risk upsetting their marriages and all the good things associated with those primary relationships.  

When couples (such as you and Marc could do) choose to simply "Say Yes" to giving threesomes a try, they can begin moving their SHARED sensuality to a new, higher level... one that involves both parties in inviting extra people into their sex lives... and one that assures that each party feels that they are intimately involved in the special pleasures the other gets to enjoy.  

When a couple JOINTLY decides to give threesomes a try, the husband usually feels that HER extra pleasure is happening because HE made it happen... it is HIS GIFT TO HER.  

Occasionally couples that first try some MFM experiences will then try exploring a few FMF experiences... where he gets to be the center of sexual attention... and that can be HER GIFT TO HIM.  Even when such couples return to more HER-centered threesome fun, the husband typically is comfortable with the wife being the center-piece (no pun intended) of the sexual adventures.

I can't tell you how many men have written to me to tell me how they thoroughly enjoy WATCHING their wife as she is being pleasured by another guy... or HOLDING her as another guy nibbles on or fills her pussy with a "strange" cock.  Men tell me they enjoy letting their cock slide through their wife's pussy after another guy's cock has warmed (and maybe lubed) it.  I know my two guys enjoy that... and who am I to question why?

No Debbi... you are NOT nuts!  But, I do think it is time that you finally said, "OK Marc, if you want me to try a threesome... then I will... but only if you are sure that is what YOU want.  And, if it ever really happens, I want you to hold me in your arms and neck with me while it happens... so I can feel that such an experience is simply an extension of OUR shared sexual pleasure."

If you can say that (or something similar) to Marc, I am sure he will go wild as he begins thinking about how to make it happen.  After the above conversation would be the time to ask him how he thinks he could make such an experience happen.  If you are comfortable with making suggestions, you could mention any of the men you know who you think you would enjoy... and who you think might be receptive.

However, an important consideration is this: Let Marc be MOSTLY in charge of setting things up.  AND, make sure that you focus your attention on Marc (to the extent that you can) during that first half dozen or so experiences... and repeatedly re-express your love for him... and thank HIM for making those pleasure experiences possible.  Then... ENJOY YOURSELF!!!
 
You ended your last note with "Do I dare?"  Yes Debbi... you most definitely should "dare"... to advance your own levels of pleasure, and to cement a new and different bond between you and Marc.  Let him know that your pussy is his... and if HE wants it to be explored by new and different cocks... you will no longer say no.  Let him know that your breasts are his breasts... and if HE wants to allow other mouths and hands to caress them... you are willing to cooperate, and see what new SHARED pleasures may result.

Debbi... I can assure you... from personal experience... that when a woman allows herself the luxury of multiple-guy sexual stimulation... her feminine fulfillment level will reach new heights.  And, when her husband makes it all possible, it truly is a gift from HIM... for their shared enjoyment.

By the way, if you and Marc do decide to move ahead... as a couple... I have a few files that could offer some suggestions on how to get things rolling.  Either you or Marc can request them whenever the time is right.  Then you can read and plan together.

Keep me posted.

Much love,

Joan

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01-01-18

Dear Joan

Thank you for the very nice and obviously very sincere note. You have given me a feeling of relaxation over this. 

I'm having a real problem with the "who" in this arrangement. We have a couple of friends, married friends, who have come on to me over the years, and to whom I'm attracted. Are they out of bounds? I don't know if Marc could bring someone that close into our sex lives. 

I almost raped Marc last night. He knows I'm turning on to his threesome suggestions. He started talking about a threesome as he was fucking me, unfairly in the middle of my first orgasm. I'm afraid I tacitly agreed. And, by the way, as a lover he can last a long time. And he's big. I just wish he were enough.

Debbi

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January 19, 2001 (from Debbi) 

Hi Friend

Last night Marc and I had very slow and long sex. It was great. As Marc was in me, I told him I'd do it... try a threesome! He was very happy. I'm not sure why... why he'd want to share me that is... and why it makes HIM so happy. Anyway, he does, and I guess I've committed myself to it.

This morning over breakfast, he asked me with whom I'd like to do it. I had no ideas for him. I did, but I couldn't come to tell him. I told him maybe we could talk about it over the weekend.

I've got to tell you though, I have this queasy feeling in the pit of my stomach, and it doesn't feel like excitement.

I'm also concerned about the kids (boy 7 and girl 9). What do I do with them if we bring someone home? Should they be allowed to 'know' what's going on.

I'll be in touch.

Thanks again for your concern and encouragement.

Debbi

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01-01-19

Hi Debbi,

I got your note from this morning.  Glad to hear that you and Marc enjoyed some long slow "great" sex last night.  So... you finally really told Marc you would "do it."  Good for you.  You said you were not sure why he was so happy..."why he'd want to share me that is."  Really?  This is not an unusual male attitude.  We gals tend to be the more possessive ones.  

He's happy because HE FINALLY convinced YOU to do something he wants.  You have enabled him to feel a bit more in control of your relationship.  Males like that.  

And, I have got to tell you... there are MANY men who LOVE the idea of watching their wife experience sex with another guy, IF THEY are the ones who set up the situation (far different than just learning that wifey has had sex with someone else behind his back, without him there or knowing about it in advance).  

Men tell me that they truly enjoy seeing their wife get extra sexual kicks, get to try different cocks, get to experience different approaches to stimulating her.  Some husbands/boyfriends like to just watch their wife/girlfriend have these experiences... but most want to also participate along the way too.

Frankly, most of the husbands I have corresponded with (after their wives have allowed themselves to be pleasured by another guy... either simultaneous with the husband, as husband watches, or alternating with the husband) have gushed their enthusiasm for what took place.  

They variously express that it was a big turn-on for them... that they were thrilled that their wife got to have new and special sexual experiences... that they liked the idea that the pressure was off them to "perform" beyond their ability to keep going (while being able to step back in when the other guy wore out), etc.  Virtually all of them reported that they felt the new dimension in their husband/wife relationship had brought them closer together.  

Only one of them ever told me he thought he had given up or lost something by sharing his wife with another guy.  Guys typically don't think that way.  They typically figure that even if their wife's pussy was enjoyed by someone else, they haven't lost it.  It is still there, and they will be able to enjoy it again themselves.  

The only time that notion was not conveyed by a post-threesome husband was when the wife gave the husband reason to believe that "the new guy is better than me.... now she wants him and not me."  A very unwise wife!

By the way, don't think "I GUESS I've committed myself to it."  Think "I HAVE committed myself... to the unknown path toward enhanced personal pleasure, at the encouragement and with the support of my husband... and I expect to experience some fabulous new heights of feminine fulfillment!"    

You said: “This morning over breakfast, he asked me with whom I'd like to do it. I had no ideas for him. I did, but I couldn't come to tell him. I told him maybe we could talk about it over the weekend.”

Wise approach.  Let him think most of the "who" ideas come from him.

Then you said: “I've got to tell you though, I have this queasy feeling in the pit of my stomach, and it doesn't feel like excitement.”

My guess is that you are feeling "anxious" about the unknown aspects of what lays ahead.  That's a reasonable reaction. Yet, you have got to know that odds are very favorable that FUN lies ahead.

Take a few stiff drinks (to settle that stomach), and smile... knowingly to yourself, that you are about to enjoy an abundance of varied sensual stimulation and cock-filling in the days ahead... and to be able to do so all with Marc's blessing!
 
You asked: “I'm also concerned about the kids (boy 7 and girl 9). What do I do with them if we bring someone home? Should they be allowed to 'know' what's going on?”

No.... I don't suggest that you expose your kids to the new sex life that you and Marc are adopting... any more than you expose them to your current sex life.  I assume you don't generally screw in front of them at their ages.  

Even Bob and Ted and I don't generally do that in our very open three-way relationship.  While the kids do occasionally walk in on us while all three of us are in bed together, and sometimes while one of them is inside me, we don't show off our sexual connections.  And, in our case, the kids all regard both guys as "dads," so seeing us all together in bed is no big deal to them.  

In your case, it could lead to some undesired and unpredicted consequences if you and Marc make them aware of the unconventional sexual lifestyle you have adopted.  There is no reason they can't be aware that various male guests visit the two of you frequently.  That's no big deal.  But, I suggest that you not let either of your kids see or know that you invite any of these male guests into your bed.  Surely there are ways to avoid exposing that part of your life to them... until they are older.

If your home has a basement, you MAY be able to use a corner of that as an adult playroom... well away from the kids, and after they are asleep... a place where you will know in advance if they get up in the middle of the night and come looking for you.

By far, the best bet is to plan your extra guy ventures to take place away from home.  There must be a reasonably priced motel or hotel nearby.  Maybe even an adult motel.  Maybe you and Marc could get a babysitter, and the two of you could meet Mr. Extra Guy at a hotel in a community some distance away.

Occasionally we go down to a large hotel on the outskirts of Denver on Friday nights.  We get a room with a king-sized bed, and then play it by ear.  Sometimes they have me hit the lounge/dance area on my own, and they follow later and watch.  Sometimes I pick up a new guy... sometimes they pick up a new gal or two.  

Then, depending on the situation, we signal each other as to who gets the room for the next few hours.  Sometimes Tim will attract a young lady he wants to enjoy back at the room... and then if I have found an attractive guy, I introduce Bob as my husband, and suggest that the two guys get a room and take me there so we can all three have fun together.  On a few occasions, Bob, Tim and gals they have met... and me and a guy or two I have met... will all end up back at our room for some partying.  Such big romps in a small motel room have been seldom.

Lets stay in touch.  I'm looking forward to all the details as things progress for you Debbi.  Let me assure you again... It's going to be fun, fun, fun!

Love,
Joan
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More about Debbi and Marc’s adventures in Chapter 2 !