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AN ARTICLE HOSTED BY IMPREGNORIUM.NET ORGASMIC CHILDBIRTH By Laura Shanley My introduction to the concept that birth could be orgasmic came via my college roommate Kim. We were discussing painless birth (I had just read Childbirth without Fear) when Kim casually said, "You know, some women actually have orgasms as they're giving birth. My mom had one with me." What?! Even as open minded as I thought I was, the concept was almost embarrassing. I imagined this "mother" lying in a hospital bed, having an orgasm in front of a bunch of strangers - and doctors, no less. Yet I was definitely intrigued. If conception feels good, why not childbirth? In the years to come, I would read about this phenomenon again and again, and although in my own births I was never able to achieve it, I think that in time, it will become more commonplace. Little by little, our culture is ridding itself of the fear, shame, and guilt that keep many of us from experiencing sex - let alone birth - as orgasmic. Perhaps someday, if we can fully accept our sexual natures, more of us will be able to know the joy that the following women have known.
"I had been told to expect
a 'dogging pain,' but was unprepared for the sensation of sexual ecstasy,
the voluptuous feeling of penetration....Crouched on my knees on the
little afghan, I caught the infant who rushed from my vagina into the
small world between my legs, in the midst of an extraordinary orgasm
from the inside out."
"I feel the baby come down.
The sensation is ecstatic. I had prepared somewhat for this being as
painful as my last delivery had been. Yet this time the pulse of birth
feels wonderful! I am building up to the birth climax after nine months
of pleasurable foreplay. With one push the babe is in the canal. THE
NEXT PUSH BRINGS HIM DOWN, DOWN INTO THAT SPACE JUST BEFORE ORGASM WHEN
WE WOMEN KNOW HOW GOD MUST HAVE FELT CREATING THIS PLANET....HE COMES,
AS DO I."
"I had the most sought-after
midwife in France - my competent and funny aunt Marie-Therese, whose
radical idea it was that childbirth above all should feel sexy. I listened
to nothing but gospel music during my pregnancy, a music quite new to
me, and to France, and "It's a High Way to Heaven" ("...nothing
can walk up there, but the pure in heart...") was playing on the
stereo during the birth; the warmth of the singers' voices a perfect
accompaniment to the lively fire in the fireplace. My vulva oiled and
massaged to keep my hips open and my vagina fluid, I was orgasmic at
the end. Petit Pierre practically slid into the world at the height
of my amazement, smiling serenely even before he opened his eyes."
"Many mothers experience
a burning or splitting sensation as the largest diameter of the baby's
head passes through the birth outlet. Some actually experience orgasm."
"In 1968, I gave birth
to Robert Kirkpatrick. I was prepared, conscious, and in charge. After
4 hours from the onset of labour, I experienced an orgasm when my baby
emerged from my body."
"I happen to think that
having babies is very sexy. The actual birth is so sensuous, very erotic.
The feelings we've both had at the birth of each of our babies were
so primal."
"I started pushing while
Michael supported me as I squatted. Immediately, after one vigorous
push I felt Damian coming down. A tremendous excitement filled the kitchen
and Michael and I seemed to merge as our eyes met. It was as if we had
become one again as we did in a genital embrace. Yes, we were one. It
was not just I who was having the baby. Michael was as well. The moment
had become ecstatic. Sensations of every kind and color coursed through
me. I was one, one with everything....And with that I shouted in sheer
delight as I felt Damian coming....out he shot, into the safety of Michael's
confident hands."
Summer Elliott"Biologically,
you are designed to receive great pleasure from your body not only during
lovemaking and intercourse, but in birth and breastfeeding, too....Birth
offers sexual pleasure on a continuum from pleasant sensations (felt
while your uterus rhythmically contracts in early labor if you're relaxed
and feeling secure) to an intense birth climax (yes, just like an orgasm)
as your baby slithers into the world of your waiting arms."
"This birth was not only
painless, but very pleasurable. We had never read about this aspect,
and it took us by surprise. As the baby crowned, I knew from Jean's
look and sounds that she was having an explosive orgasm, which rolled
on and on. What a long way from the pain and agony of conventional myth!
Years later we asked a sympathetic doctor about this. 'Yes,' he said,
'I've seen it a few times. It may even be that many women have orgasms
during birth, but interpret them as pain because the sensations are
more intense than anything previously experienced and because women
are conditioned to expect pain.'"
"Giving birth is a highly
creative act full of orgasmic feelings, and can be a moment of ecstatic
pleasure for the mother."
"Pleasure in birth may
be the starting point for optimal family relationships. Our knowledge
of reproduction suggests there may be a biological reason for connecting
pleasure in birth with the best outcome for the baby."
"Pushing was absolutely
incredible. It felt SO good. I loved the sensation of my daughter's
head popping out; and her body coming out was incredible. I made roaring
sounds. KT later asked me if I was in a lot of pain and I said I felt
no pain at all. I was reaching down into the depths of my being - I
felt like I was reaching back through time eternal, into the Great Mother
herself - and using my power to push her out. The sounds were sounds
of power. And I felt awesomely empowered. It was I could say the best
feeling I have ever had. Primal force of life coursing through me. Power
of Woman, Power of Birth, Power of Carolyn! If I can do that, I can
do anything I set my mind to. The sensation of my daughter's body sliding
out of my vagina was orgasmic. I still shudder when I think of how pleasurable
that was."
"A woman in California
was giving birth at home in a portable birth tub and feeling very sexy
and loving with her partner. Each time she had a contraction she would
cry out, 'Oh, baby, I love it. More...more!' Her windows were open because
it was July, and soon a crowd gathered outside her home. When the baby
was born amidst shouts of 'Yes!!! Yes!!! Oh, my God, yes!!!' her neighbors
gave her a great round of applause. They only realized that it was a
birth after they heard the cries of a baby."
"It was the ultimate climax.
I felt open, loose and free. Words cannot explain the feeling as my
baby's body slithered out. To this day I can still sense that wonderful
feeling inside. It makes me tingle."
"Yet in a strange way the
energy flowing through the body in childbirth, the pressure of contracting
muscles, the downward movement of the baby and the fanning open of soft
tissues, can be powerfully erotic....[Childbirth] can be the most intensely
sexual feeling a woman ever experiences, as strong as orgasm, even more
compelling than orgasm."
"Birth is fundamentally
a creative act, as is the act of sexual union....Indeed many women have
described giving birth as intensely pleasurable and have discussed it
in orgasmic terms....more and more women are enjoying labor and birth
with their husbands just as they have enjoyed the sexual experience....Making
love, orgasm and giving birth are all inter-connected."
"It was ecstatic, wonderful,
thrilling. I heard myself moaning - in triumph, not in pain! There was
no pain whatsoever, only a primitive and sexual elation....With the
most spiraling, fascinating thrill of all, I felt my baby slither out.
I wanted to shout with joy."
nude woman on bed "My first
son was born by unexpected cesarian section. My second was a planned
homebirth with a midwife assisting. He was posterior, so it was all
back labor and he wouldn't turn. There was a great deal of pain, but
in the last few minutes, as much pain as there was, it suddenly swung
the other way to huge waves of pleasure as his body came out - an incredible
RUSH like nothing I had ever felt before or since. I said to my midwife,
Dhyana, 'Wow! What was that thing in the end!?' She said, 'That was
The Gift. A lot of my ladies get that.' I held that baby and instantly
loved him with my whole being. Maybe this is the way that nature had
intended it to be for us. Now, looking back, the only thing I can think
is that he went ramrod over my G-spot...all 9 pounds of him."
"I asked my husband to
make love to me as I was in a very romantic mood and wanted to feel
him inside me urgently. It was a wonderful experience. I had a few orgasms
during contractions - an absolutely delightful sensation. There was
no pain at all....(since then) our lovemaking has gone from great to
extraordinary."
"Birth has much in common
with orgasm; the hormone oxytocin is released, there are uterine contractions,
nipple erection, and under the best circumstances for birth, an orgasmic
feeling."
"Birth is a dark, private,
and secret opening up of our ancient sexual selves. Birth sensations,
when we allow them to be, are actually highly sensual - much like the
intense, luscious, squeezing contracting that happens during orgasms
experienced in late pregnancy.... the sensations of giving birth are
not fierce and violent; they are rapturous - we feel an ever-increasing
pressure on our cervix as our body prepares for the sweetest, most intense
of orgasms, the lovely culmination of our labors of love: birth. During
birth, we pant, scream, and throw our head back - this is sensuality
with a purpose: we are taking in extra oxygen, releasing adrenaline
into our bloodstream, and widening our pelvic outlet. And when the baby
comes out all slick and new, we are in ecstasy, enraptured by the most
heightened hormonal load we will ever know."
"At about 3 AM, I got a
real feeling that the baby needed to be born, and also a great surge
of energy, the first I had felt. Then I made a very astounding discovery.
I was able, through prayer, to get knowledge directly from God, that
birth is a sexual event, and involves the same mechanisms that the beginnings
involve. I was able to get my labor started again and I was in hard
labor within 15 minutes. As long as I was alone and able to yield to
the sexual joy of the birthing, I was able to experience wonderful orgasmic
feelings and no pain at all." "My body told me to squat, so I did. I hunkered down on two feet, concentrating, knowing without being told that millions of females before me had brought their babies into the world in this ordained position. It felt so deliciously comfortable to squat; I felt the baby move down. Come...COME... COMMMMME!
It was then I began to scream,
but not with pain - with joy. With release. I felt an enormous all-body
orgasm as I bore down, again, and again, and again, crying out with
lust and happiness. The baby was coming, and so was I. I pushed an enormous
last push with every fiber of my being; the head and shoulders appeared.
By then I was sobbing. I reached under the baby's armpits and pulled
out...a child. A living, breathing infant...born perfect. Perfectly
beautiful. My daughter."
"I returned upstairs with
some of Stella's dance tapes. Belly dancing to the music, I found that
the contractions were much more bearable....Oddly enough, the more obscenely
I thrust my pelvis back and forth, the less it hurt. I was amazed! Why
hadn't I known that these movements were linked to the act of birthing,
I wondered....Moments later, I discovered that all the pelvic thrusting
I had been doing in my life - dancing to get a date, making love, and
now, giving birth - was integrally connected. All that thrusting had
gotten me pregnant, and all this thrusting would help bring a new life
into the world. While the drums banged in my head, I was serene knowing
that I had found the secret to life: the glorious pelvic thrust."
"Birth is always intimate
and sexual, although the intimacy and the sexuality can be masked. My
own personal experience of the births of my children confirms this.
My feelings throughout my wife's labors I can describe only as those
of a very close, physical-emotional, sexual union with her and what
I felt to be the transcendent force flowing through her. The sensation
was warm and soft, like making love, but was also strong, forceful and
awesome. Each time the experience changed my life and allowed me a glimpse
of the transcendental."
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