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Background.
I had dinner with Coach the other night and he shared with me some of
his insights. For those who don't know him, Coach is a guy who has spent
the last 10 years advising other guys who want to be cuckolds. He has
helped dozens of men who's ultimate fantasy is to have their wife have
sex with another man. Along the way he has picked up a good
understanding of what drives guys to this particular fantasy. He also
has a lot of information about what happens with couples who succeed at
this particular set of fantasies.
He was kind enough to share some of his thoughts on the subject and I
promised to post a brief summary on the Internet. Overall he sounded a
little discouraged. Most guys lack the discipline and focus to achieve
their alleged goals. Many seem incapable of following simple
instructions and thus run right off the tracks. Personally I think he
will be out of the coaching "business" in another year or too.
The Swinger
These are guys who want to have sex with other women. They think the
easiest way to sell their wives on the idea is to get their wife to have
sex with other guys.
Since they usually won't admit to their wives that swinging is what they
want they often miss out. There is no trade off. The wife is out fucking
around but the guy is still at home doing nothing. There have been no
negotiations, no trade-off. She has never agreed that he can have sex
with others. As a result his needs are often not met.
The other danger is that the swinger makes sex the total focus of his
relationship with his wife. She then meets a better lover and the
relationship can quickly end. The wife is off with the new, better lover
and the guy is abandoned.
About a third of the time guys are actually able to transition into a
true swinging situation. Usually they do this by moving from cuckolding
to threesomes and then to swinging. Coach seemed to feel that most
swingers would be better off if they just started off with threesomes
and tried to progress from there.
The Wimp
These are guys with very low self esteem and or low sex drives. They
know that they are not meeting their wives sexual needs and figure the
way to succeed is to put more men on the job. Often they and their wives
were virgins at the start of the relationship and neither has ever had
another partner. They seem to know they are not good at sex. Rather than
try to improve they are looking for another way around the problem.
About half the time the wife is very dominant and the guy is just
looking for a way out from under. In these situations there is a real
likelihood the guy will get crushed. The wife takes a lover who becomes
the top of the hierarchy, then the wife, then the cuckold. In many cases
the guy become the servant for the two - supporting them, doing chores
and getting nothing in return.
Of the remaining couples two outcomes are common. She finds a new lover,
transfers her relationship to the new guy and the cuckold is left
divorced and alone. The other possibility is that they both become
subservient to the wife's lover.
There are two rare outcomes that can work for the cuckold. In the first
the wife takes a lover. This satisfies her sexual needs. Since sex was
never a supportive part of their relationship things actually improve.
Sex is no longer a problem area as it has been effectively delegated to
the lover. Their are a few rare cases where couple are able to use the
cuckold experience to enrich and improve their own sex lives. In these
cases the third party teaches them enough to improve their sex life.
While this can be nice to see, it is too rare to even consider as a
likely outcome of the experience.
The bi
These are guys who would like to have sex with other men but are afraid
to admit it and afraid to do it. They want to live vicariously through
their wives, taking the wives sexual adventures as their own. They can't
enjoy cum directly from the source so instead they eat it from a pussy.
These are also the guys you read about who want to help get the other
guy hard, but him in, etc.
These guys seem to have the worst outcomes from the cuckold experience.
Because they are trying to hide their motivation from both their
partners and themselves they have a lot of trouble achieving a good
outcome. They need for their wives to pick partners who are open to
gay/bi experiences but this rarely happens. Despite the stories, most
men are not open to having another male suck on them to get them ready
to fuck some woman.
Coach reported only one couple who found a guy who was willing to fuck
both of them. In all other cases the best outcome achievable seemed to
be to have the guy eat his wife's cream pie after she had been fucked by
her lover. [Note that safe sex concerns really dictate against this type
of situation, but it does still happen.] Note that this practice tends
to put the wife in a dominant role in the same way that men tend to
dominate women who swallow after a blow job.
Coach also offered some "Cuckold Do's and Don'ts"
1. Think Twice - make sure this is really something you want because you
can't undo it. Buyers remorse can really mess up a marriage. Also
couples can have very different reactions to the experience and that can
create problems.
2. Avoid Friends and people from work - if the experience doesn't work
out it can cost you anything from a good friend to a job or more. You
don't want to lose your wife, your job and your best friend all in one
bad evening. Also, the guy may feel it's OK to just stop by and fuck the
wife any time he gets horny.
3. Think safety and pick partners carefully - if the partner is aware of
the situation he may think the wife is a real slut and anything goes.
Wives have unhappily discovered they were expected to perform oral, anal
or group sex; far different than the experienced lover they were expecting.
4. Know why your doing it - understanding why you want the experience
can lead to a more successful outcome. Too many guys "think" they are
doing it to get their wife the sexual experience she deserves; then they
don't bother to arrange it so their needs are also met.
5. Understand you wife - 99% of guys have no idea what their partner's
sexual fantasies are. This ignorance stops them from offering ideas that
are mutually appealing and satisfying.
If you think you'd like to be a cuckold then Coach is probably your best
guide. He'll help you get where you want to go and he doesn't want to
"fuck your wife" like many of the helpers out there. You can reach him
at coach_3@hotmail.com.