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Subject: {ASSM} ESSENTIAL INFO ON MASTURBATION AND SEX
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Date: Fri, 28 Jan 2005 17:10:02 -0500
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Masturbation is often bad sex, and bad sex is generally not too great
for you.  It is generally over depletive, and under helpful.  So, I
would compare bad masturbation to eating a chocolate bar.  There's
nothing bad or shameful about it, and if it's all you have to eat,  you
should eat that; it's just that bad sex is not ideally the healthiest
thing in the world -- if engaged in too often.  Though sometimes it's
healthy to eat chocolate bars.

If you ARE going to masturbate, try not to make it bad sex.  Instead,
try to make it as pleasurable as possible. Ideally, you want to be
sufficiently sexually aroused to make the sexual energy necessary for
multiple orgasms.  Guys, as well as girls must teach themselves to
become multi-orgasmic.  It is only through multiple orgasms that humans
will be able to attain ultimate sexual pleasure and harness the sexual
energy which can empower their lives.  For guys, abstaining from too
frequent ejaculation is essential.  To learn how to have multiple
orgasms, masturbation is at first advantageous.  Women may want to use
a dildo, and men may likewise want to use a fake pussy such as the
fleshlight, http://www.fleshlight.com.  By masturbating one is
generally more in control of the sex, and for men especially, more able
to get close enough to orgasm that they may orgasm and yet not
ejaculate.  In any case, whether you are masturbating for pleasure or for
practice, don't force yourself to ejaculate too quickly.  Take your
time physically.  Sex is of the mind, and the more mentally aroused you
are, the less depletive and _more_ helpful the sex may be.  Since
masturbation has a tendency to be bad sex, SEX itself is ideally
preferable.  However in the absence of sex, it is good and healthy to
masturbate, yet one must be sure to conserve one's energy and not
deplete oneself.  This means attempting to orgasm without ejaculating,
and replenishing oneself with fruit and vitamins if one ejaculates.
For more information on retaining sexual energy, you may want to read
"The Multi-Orgasmic Man."  If you are able to hold off from ejaculating
for 72 hours, you may attain maximum sperm count and experience more
energy.  However, it is probably necessary to ejaculate periodically,
perhaps once a week or two, to stimulate your sexual health, while
having multiple orgasms in between.  Just as it is necessary to
exercise your muscles to stay healthy, it is likewise necessary to
exercise your penis to stay healthy.  If you ejaculate all the time, or
exercise too much, you may overwork yourself.  If you never exercise or
ejaculate, you will not be physically or sexually healthy,
respectively.  Sex is healthy however, and in the absence of sex,
masturbation is the only available substitute.  Though sex is better,
it is actually healthy to masturbate if it is your only option.  As I
said, the better the masturbation, the healthier, and ejaculation may
deplete you whether you masturbate or have sex.  The problem with
ejaculation may be two fold.  On the one hand you are ejaculating fluid
which contains vital nutrients from several glands, which must be
replaced and reproduced.  On the other hand, ejaculation may release
vital sexual energy which could be channeled to other parts of the body
and used there to make you healthier and more energized.  Whilst there
is no substitute for the real thing; in the absence of sex,
masturbation is the only alternative.  One positive thing about
masturbation however, is that people who masturbate and who are
comfortable with their sexuality are more likely to ultimately have
better sex lives (I'm sure this doesn't take tons of masturbation).

From age 14 on, humans are generally happier, healthier, and better off
if they have loving sexual relationships.  In Europe it is quite
natural to have your boyfriend or girlfriend sleep over and have sex in
the teen years.  The better friends you are with a member of the
opposite sex, the better the sex will be.  Love is an aphrodisiac.
However the only requirement for sex should be sexual attraction.  Once
this requirement of good looks and attraction is met - and this can
occur almost immediately - WHY would you NOT have sex?  Sure, a deeper
loving relationship is probably a better experience of sex, but if your
choice is sex with a hot babe who you barely know, or nothing, why
would you not have sex?  Marriage seems to make no difference.  As far
as the risk of unwanted children goes, money and age are more important
than marriage.  A 22 year old couple is not much more able to raise
children than two 22 year old singles. Sure, some might say that
marriage gives children a more solid foundation upon which to make
their lives.  And it surely does.  Children are the whole purpose of
marriage.  However to those who speak out against pre-marital
intercourse, one must point out that they seem to have no problem with
divorce, which is the end of 50% of marriages, and leaves children in
exactly the same place as pre-marital childbirth.  Love and
relationships are merely an even better option than plain sex.
However, unless this alternative exists - and even if it does, sex with
other sexually attractive people is only a question of available time -
the question between sex with someone hot who you barely know, and no
sex, is quite easy to answer.  SEX.  Thus, we find, that if both people
are sexually attracted, then there is no reason not to have sex, assuming
they are both healthy, use birth control, and are both good persons who
will not have any negative effect on the other's life.

Remember, don't fall into the trap of just wanting sex itself.  Find
people who you actually want.

If the person you're having sex with is under 18 years old, you should
be within 3 years of them.
14-17
15-18
16-19
17-20

The beginnings of sexual activity (french kissing, etc.) often begin
around age 11-12.

1st base: french kissing
2nd base: fondling breasts, vagina, & penis

14 is the age everyone should wait until to have sex.

3rd base: Oral sex: felatio & cunnlingus
4th base: sex, home run!

Birth control is very important.  The younger you are, the greater an
imposition an unwanted baby would be, so the younger you are, the more
important it is to use TWO FORMS of birth control.  Ideally the female
should be on the pill, and the male should use condoms.  The risk of an
unwanted baby is a risk with another person's (the babies) life, which
is where the notion of sex being "immoral" comes from.

Condoms are the only good protection against STDs.  The three main
uncurable* STD's are Herpes, Warts, & HIV, don't pass those diseases
onto other people (that would be immoral too if you knew you had the
disease)!  Diseases such as Syphilis can cause irreparable damage if
left untreated, so take care to get treatment at the first sign of
symptoms!  Even if you have no symptoms, Gonorrhea & Chlamydia can lead
to Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID) in women and cause infertility,
see
http://www.intelihealth.com/IH/ihtIH/8799/8799/29362/197425.html?d=dmtHealthAZ
so get tested periodically even if you have no symptoms and Gonorrhea
& Chlamydia can be cleared up just like the flu or something. If you
wait too long, you could end up infertile.

For more info on STD's see http://www.ashastd.org/stdfaqs/index.html

It is a happy fact to note however, that transmission of HIV during
vaginal intercourse is actually rather low especially if you have
condoms).   The risk of Herpes or Warts is much higher.  Inspect your
partner's genitals before having intercourse to help protect against
Warts & Herpes.


*Hepatitis B may also be uncurable, which is why you should get
vaccinated against it.  Then you won't be able to contract this
disease.


In the event you do get pregnant, deal with it quickly and consider an
abortion within the first three months.  If you had a sperm and an egg
sitting next to each other in a petri dish, you would normally think it
fine to destroy them.  So has anything changed the moment after the
sperm fertilizes the egg?  I don't know, but if abortion is wrong,
consider that bringing an unwanted child into the world is not so good
either, so try not to get pregnant.

Also, when comparing heterosexuals to homosexuals, a much higher
percentage of homosexuals have HIV, thus women who sleep with
homosexual men are putting themselves at a greater risk of HIV, and men
who sleep with these women are also putting themselves at a greater
risk of HIV.  So I would avoid these women and tell your chicks not to
do gay guys.  I do suppose the trade off for homos is they don't have
to worry about pregnancy. LOL

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