Kysa's
Personal Views
on Penis Size
(TRUE, Size, F)
by Kysa Braswell
www.kysaonline.com
For me, and for most of my active friends, penis size is not unimportant. Average to most of us is 5.5 to 6.5 inches in length (I quantify girth as circumference 'around' the cock, but it's enough to know that I like my dicks thick) and I'm indifferent to a man of that size - I want better than average. When I'm dating, above average is all I require unless I'm just looking for dick (through email, ads online, or by personal referrals) and nothing more, then I demand 8+ inches and very thick. Under "normal conditions" of dating when other factors (physical and intellectual compatibility) are important as well, bigger than average is enough. Just average is a "not see again," but without shame to the man. I consider under 7 inches as inadequate, and I do tell my friends that the guy is small, but not to the extent of making fun of him.
Now if a guy is under five inches, that is a different story. I consider him tiny. This probably has to do with several factors, including the female mentality towards men. Making fun of a man's size (or lack of it) is a way of neutralizing the fact that men are physically superior to women. It's common for women to make lewd comments and jokes about a tiny or even a small penis among themselves. It physically vanquishes a man down below that of a woman even if the rest of him is large, muscular and otherwise very masculine.
The involuntary (internal) laugh that happens when many women see a poorly endowed man requires another explanation. When a woman desires a man for sexual purposes it's instinctive that she wants and expects him to be masculine. The most masculine quality of a nude man before me is obviously his penis. So when a woman sees a man for the first time, and he lacks the masculinity that she desires, she experiences deep-rooted displeasure and resentment that he can't provide her with the pleasure she deserves from a real man's cock. I assume the "giggle" is a defense mechanism to overcome the frustration of not being able to fulfill her needs with a potential mate she is considering.
I'm sure the evolution that has occurred through natural selection has engraved its sexual patterns of thinking into our psyches, too. To put it bluntly, women do want to weed out the weenies (through spreading the word or even humiliation to liquidate a man's confidence) for both procreational and recreational purposes.
That's the way I feel and always have felt since I first started being sexually active at the age of 15. I thought my first "love" was average only to found out differently. In fact, he turned out to be very big I soon found out (he was over 9 inches and pretty thick). I found a larger penis felt more pleasurable and conveyed more masculinity than a smaller one and was naïve when I thought ALL GUYS were about his size!
As I dated guys for a while after him, I would laugh and thought it sad and pathetic that they'd pull out their little 6-inchers for me to suck on. But that's all they got: a blowjob, as I wouldn't fuck a guy that small, knowing it would be leading him on to let him fuck me. But that's also probably why sometimes I back off on my true feelings or say that I'm the exception and not the rule when a guy is being polite or I think he's young and impressionable.
Most guys have what girls call a Goldilocks cock - not too small, not too big, but just right. That's actually a good place to be as a man. Your penis will fit with a wider variety of girls, most of whom are content with large enough. Only the first few inches of the vagina have nerve endings, and a girl's pleasure during intercourse comes as much from your penis girth (which indirectly helps to stimulate the clit during penetration and thrust) as length. If length were important to most women, they would all own horse-sized dildos and vibrators. But that's not the case. In college, the girl who had the biggest dildo was one that was 7 inches long, but 7.5 inches in girth!
So while an extra-large cock feels great to some girls, like myself, just as many will find it uncomfortable. Which is where guys will here their girlfriends say something like, "My last boyfriend had a huge penis, but you're just perfect." Don't focus on the old boyfriend's cock size at all. Her perception of his size is probably larger than the reality. (Just like when you're looking at a girl on the street and she says that her boobs are HUGE! You reply, "No, not really....")
More than anything, I have one rule: NEVER HURT A PENIS! I've had guys offer to let me do some pretty seriously painful things to their [small] penises, but I refused, as I love and worship cocks, and just because a guy has the misfortune of owning a smaller one, this does not mean he derives any lesser pleasures from it. I'm sure his orgasms as just as powerful as the 8 and 9-inch guys I've fucked. The difference? The 6-incher can't fuck, and will never be able to fuck and pleasure a girl like the guy with the 9-incher hanging between his thighs!
These are only my personal opinions that are a culmination of my personal experiences and do not necessarily reflect the opinions of other women.
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Addendum:
Not
that I need to set the record straight, but here goes. I like 'larger' men.
It's a preference: one that makes me cum. I like men who make me cum . . .
hard. Okay, that's my confession.
Problem
is, some guys don't want me to have that 'preference.' They're not willing
to give me my due on that subject. They write and say it's sexist, cruel,
short-sighted, and myriad other reasons, most basically coming down to this
argument: "You're a horrible person, Kysa. I hate your fucking
guts."
I've
often compare a girl preferring a big cock to a guy who likes big tits on a
girl. I'm told, "That's not a fair comparison, since tits aren't a sex
organ, like a man's cock." Point taken, but that analogy stretches the
point. Tits can be naturally big, like a cock can. And they can be
surgically enhanced, which I'm not opposed to, if well-done. Cocks can be
temporarily enhanced in size with expensive cock pumps, which would seem
both dangerous and painful.
The
source of their anger is beyond my small brain. Nor do I worry about that.
Not with a dissertation could I change their minds. I don't know what a guy
feels, so it's hard to compare what a difference a big cock makes, and how
it makes me feel on top of spine-shattering orgasms. Maybe I should say
something like, "Do you prefer tight little pussies, or big, loose,
sloppy ones when you fuck a girl?" I'm laying odds on tight. Now I'm no
sexologist, nor would I ever want to be. I just know what feels good.
On
the contrary, think of what makes your cock feel good, what makes you cum.
You may be able, through autoerotica, to give yourself better orgasms than
ANY woman ever could. I fault women for that. We know nothing about men's
bodies, despite all the gender-bashing that's been done over the past
decade. Most women who write about sex feel that men "owe" them an
orgasm. Fuck that. You're on your own, and remember this rule, be you male
or female: you're responsible for your OWN orgasm. Get past that hurdle and
you'll lead a much more satisfying life, along with lessened or false
expectations between the sheets.
Frankly,
big cocks simply
look
good, too. I think you'd be surprised at the
number of guys who send me their cock photos. I'm genuinely flattered that
they do, and one guy this week sent me a photo of his true 9-incher, and
another sent a photo of his uncut cock that was one of the most beautiful
cocks I've ever seen. I'd suck him on demand, anytime, if I were with him!
Just the sight of his cock makes me wet. I've considered starting a photo
gallery of all the cock photos I've been sent over the years, but haven't
for two reasons: (1) 90% of my site traffic is male, and I'm betting they
wouldn't care to see that; and (2) I've thrown most away for privacy's sake.
I don't trade others' personal photos unless they allowed me to. (One reason
you don't see Leslie's photos on my site, despite the fact that I have over
a 1000 photos of her, both casual and nudes.)
Most
arguments I get saying I should not prefer larger-sized men go like this:
"We're not all hung like bulls, and you shouldn't expect us to be. You
should be able to cum with anyone, especially if he's willing to pleasure
you in a variety of ways." Good point. Most men aren't hung over 8
inches. That's statistically 1 percent of the population of all males, if
that, about the same number of females who are as beautiful as Salma Hayek.
That still doesn't erase my preference. Howard Stern prefers skinny girls
with no fat and big breasts and great asses. He rarely finds 'that' girl,
but he enjoys sifting through the piles of women who come to his show to
meet and strip for him. (All the more power to him.)
The
above argument makes another subtle point that you may not have caught. We
(men & women) should be
into
relationships, not just sex. Who can
disagree with that? But I can't count the number of times I've seen a
gorgeous guy and thought, "I'd love to spend a hour with his
body," with no further commitments. Detached sex is wonderful, but it's
obviously not a goal toward creating or sustaining a relationship. I want to
be my man's friend as much as anything else. I want to be prim and proper in
public with him, but I will be his whore in bed, trust me. The only demand
I'd make on him is to let me suck him off. I don't think that's asking too
much. Okay, I'm an admitted cum freak. Second confession in one day. And you
know what? I'm not ashamed to admit it.
In the end, it all
comes down to this: she likes your cock because it's attached to you.
Ah,
but just as I cannot change his mind, he won't change mine. And therein lies
wisdom: don't waste time on things you can't change; only the things you
can. After a while, the circle of things you can change will grow, and
you'll do great things.
-
Kysa
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The End
© Kysa Braswell
www.kysaonline.com