ASK DOCTOR DAN

QUESTION 9

Hello doctor dan, how can I tell my girlfriend that I like anal sex performed on me without her freaking out? Please help!

Drew, 25 M

LAURA SAYS...

I hardly doubt there's a "right" way to tell your girlfriend that you wanna get fucked up the ass :P The only possible way that I can think of is to bring the topic up gradually. Maybe you talk (or do something) to her about something anally related. Then you can maybe play with hers during sex or maybe comment that she should do something to yours even if it's just touching. Gradually, she would ideally see for herself that you have pleasure there and the question would be less awkward for the both of you.

DAN SAYS...

Hi Drew. The fact that you are worried about broaching this with your girlfriend tells me that she is probably not the kind of gal who goes for this type of thing. Or maybe that's what you think? Who really knows, until you try? Gradually is the key, go slow and try to get her interested in anal play during your normal sex sessions. The bottom line remains though - if she is repulsed by it or has no interest whatsoever, drop it.....don't ever pressure someone into something they don't want to do.