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QUESTION 1

I am having a problem with my boyfriend and sex. In the beginning when we'd have sex he'd tease me and say oh I'm gonna cum then I'd freak out and tell him to pull out. His reason for doing this was that when i got anxious my pussy got tighter, and he wanted that... I'd know he was only teasing and after like 3 times I got on the pill to be safe.. but how could I tell if he WAS about to come?

Anonymous, 18 F

ANSWER

Hi Anonymous! Thanks for writing to me. I am a little concerned because at the age of 18 I would have thought that you would have been more careful with contraception, given that you say you had unprotected sex three times with your boyfriend. It only takes one time to get pregnant you know, and only one time to contract an STD! He doesn't even have to fully cum to make you pregnant, sperm can be present in his pre cum as well. I'm glad that you're now on the pill, but please see a doctor and have an STD test as soon as possible, ok?

As for the question, it can be easy or hard to tell if a guy is about to cum for real, depending on the guy. We're all different! Some are very vocal, others simply grunt, moan or look dreamy, yet others show no outward signs at all. In all cases the penis becomes extremely stiff at the point of ejaculation, and the head becomes enlarged as blood is forced into the glans. Muscular squirting actions can also be felt at the base of most ejaculating penises.

So in summary, you can't really tell when a guy has blown his wad, and it really comes down to trust between the two partners, which seems to be a bit lacking in your relationship.

Doctor Dan