FAQ's
This page contains answers to mails I have received, and which I think might have general interest.
Does your husband really not know that you are writing these stories?
No he doesn't. In a way I wish he did, because I do feel a bit guilty about doing it behind his back. Also I wouldn't have to be so carefull about the use of the computer or the time I use in front of it. Some things he could know, that would even be quite exciting, but I know I would have to draw the line somewhere. There are certainly some of the things I have written about, both true and not true, which would - I believe - damage our relationship. Or at least I fear the risk is too high. It is ok for a man to say that he has fantasies about other men having sex with his wife. But one thing is a fantasy another thing is the real situation. I don't think that a lot of the men reading and writing about the subject, would really like for it to happen, or would like to find out that their wifes are dreaming of sex with their best friends. Even if Poul could see some of the stories, I couldn't let him see this site for instance, because he would then see all the other stories. Once the bag is open, I think it would be very difficult to limit access. For the time being I think it is safer to keep the bag closed.
Are you really you?
No, I am not. There is no Jennifer Doalfer. However, almost everything else that I have written about myself is true. Sometimes I think that I have actually written too much about myself, so that somebody might be able to piece together all the bits and figure out that it is me. I have however changed a few details, which should not alter the way I come across, but should make it more difficult for anybody trying to figure out who I am. BUT, just please don't try. If you read this it must be because you like what I write. If there is any risk of me being exposed I will stop immediately. I have a professional career, husband and children to guard.
How much of the stories are true?
That is a very good question. Some times I have to ask myself the same question. Generally you can assume that what I say is true and what I say is my dreams is true. However, some of the true things happened quite a few years ago, and I have to rewrite it, as it is originally in Danish. As I get excited writing it, I might add dialog or a twist to the story. Quite often, the stories which are labeled as dreams, have some degree of thruth to them. When I have a fantasy, it is usually based upon something, which has got my imagination going. When I imagine sex, it is almost always with some real person, as I have to have a person in my mind to get excited about it.
Do you read other stories from the net? Do you want to exchange stories?
The answer is a "limited yes" and "no". What I read on the net, is mostly to see how other writers write. I very seldom get excited from reading something other people have written. That is also the reason I don't care to exchange stories. People are welcome to read all my stores. I don't have any further stories to trade. As a matter of fact, most of what I read I find either boring or disgusting. I do read some stories about the cheating wife, but that is because I am quite fascinated by the subject of why men fantasise about giving their wifes away. I can remember only two stories which really got me excited, but I am not going to tell which ones, because I am actually embarassed about it. Even I appararently have a limit to what I want to write here!
Why do you write about your dreams?
I am not quite sure about that myself. I think it is to experiment with certain idea and acts which I, in real life, would be afraid to carry out. But also there is something very arousing about taking some real situation, which I have otherwise had to keep quiet about, and actually be able to explain it in details. Also, being a bit of an exhibitionist, writing about what I dream about and what I feel is a bit of an exhibition. Publishing a story which is very personal to me, and knowing that a large number of men read it, is a bit like being an exhibitionist. In real life you expose something which is very private and get turned on from knowing that a number of men get excited from watching you. Writing like I do is just another way of being an exhibitionist, I guess.
I would like to write together with you, would you do that?
I am afraid not. As you perhaps have understood from reading the above questions, I like the idea of writing and imagining what effect it has on people. I haven't really got the time to get involved in writing with the fortunately large number of people who write to me. I correspond with 2 or 3 guys on a regular basis, one being PJ who has started to proofread my stories. But I am very pleased to receive mail from people who read my stories. It is a great encuragement, and occationally I receive responces which are actually very arousing. I try to reply to almost all mails, just to indicate that I have seen them and appreciate the effort. But I cannot go into lengthy correspondance. Sorry.
Can I have a picture of you? Would you like to exchange pictures?
No, for sevaral reasons. The idea of writing under a pen name to avoid being exposed would be kind of ruined if I started to send pictures to people, wouldn't you think? (a polite way of saying that it is a stupid question). I guess I could mask my face, but firstly I don't really have any pictures of the kind you would probably like and secondly I like the idea that I become a picture in the readers mind of what that particular reader fancies the most. As it is now I appeal to everybody who likes blonds and brunettes. If I admitted to being one or the other, I would disappoint half of my readers! But I can tell you that I am rather tall, still slim (I jog and go to the sport center regularly - you can actually clearly see my stomack muscles when I flex them!) and tanned, in the winter time thanks to the sun beds at the sports center. My breasts are placed farily hight on a rather broad chest. They look like a softball cut in half, with the nipples right in center (except that the right one is about 1/2" above center - nobody is perfect). I used ot be able to rest on my back without the shape changing very much. There days I am afraid they flatten a bit. My waist have never been really slim, I have more of a boyish build - still with firm high buttocks. Now I hope that hasn't ruined the imagined picture you might have had of me.
Questions and answers added 11-oct-2000
What do you really think of wife swapping and guys "offering" their wifes to other guys? (apart from your views expressed in the stories you have written)
I think there are two levels to this. One is just wife swapping which I know Poul doesn't find nearly as intriguing (Read: Arousing) as actually "offering" me to somebody else. When we have talked about this he imagines a situation where I initially do it for his sake. Let me give you an example: Quite a few years ago we went together to a conference in the far east. After the conference a few of the delegates stayed some extra days. On the last day a new conference started at the hotel and they were short of rooms. We offered one of our friends to stay at our room. The room only had one, albeit very large bed, which we shared. I went to bed with a T-shirt and my panties, not seing anything sexual in the situation (the friend was a good friend and that was all). But while the friend was in the bathroom Poul tried to get me to take off my T-shirt and panties, because he liked the idea that I was lying naked next to this guy. I refused and nothing happened. Years later when we talked about guys sharing wifes, it came up that Poul had been very disappointed as he had be so aroused from the thought and of where it might have led if the guy had realised I was naked under the blanket. When we talked about this situation recently, Poul asked me if the same situation were to arise today, if I would have done it. BIG QUESTION! Today I find the thought arousing, preferably with a guy I would find more attractive - but would I be able to do it? In real life I am not quite as daring as in my dreams!
You said in Q&A that your husband didn't know that you wrote stories? Why?
Because too many of the stories involve me imagining situations around real people we know and even in some cases describing actual situation with people we know, that I fear what his reaction would be. Apart from that I use so much time writing these stories, and there are so many other things I don't get done which I should have done, that if he finds out, I fear he would feel I have let down the family and kids in order to write. I don't know how he would react to this, and I don't feel like finding out. Apart from that it is kind of fun to have my own "secret" life.
How did you decide to write?
I found myself taking more and more time documenting real situations for my diary, some times feeling like it would be more fun writing what I wished would have happened (As not so many things happen any more). I have written dreams into my diary for quite a number of years.
How did you know where to post?
I was searching for newsgroups for my work, and was surprised to come across so many sex related ones. I started reading some of them for fun. Mostly disgusted because they were so badly written, or involved activities which I found disgusting. I thought that I could do it better, and for fun rewrote a dream from my diary and published it to a pay site asking for contributions against promises of free access for the winner. I got a second place. I didn't mind not getting the free access and was very plesantly surprised that it got so high ranking. It was a thrill and quite arousing to know that people were reading about my dreams. I started to publish to the alt.sex.stories and soon somebody directed me to asstr and suggested I set up my own site. I did and am absolutely astonished at the number of people visiting my site.
You said you didn't enjoy reading as you found most stories boring. What does turn you on in such a way as to make you want to slip a hand inside your panties and touch the magic button?
For one thing writing these stories. Not so much while actually writing them as when I imagine the situations I later write about. But if I have to single out one thing, it is knowing that guys gets excited from looking at me. In real life I really am an exhibitionist. I will make sure the curtain is slightly open when I go into a changing room or if I stay at a hotel in a town where I am not known I will make sure I undress while "forgetting" to close the curtains. Just the other night I was in the changing rooms of a health center which were very busy so I ended up getting one of the lockers which were almost at the door where the guests outside could look in whenever it opened. Towelling after the bath I knew I was clearly visible to the guests outside several times when the door opened. Obviously I couldn't "touch my magic botton" at that time, but I certainly did as soon as I came home.