I've been trying to locate a BDSM social group to join, and I've discovered that it's like banging my head against a brick wall. All require that new members have a referral from an existing member and jump through a million hoops.

I live in a rather isolated rural area, and I don't personally know anyone in the scene around me. So any local BDSM groups are basically closed to new members as far as I'm concerned.

It is certainly understandable for a BDSM group to be cautious about wannabe members. There are plenty of wanks out there--I know from some the women who write to me and make plans to play with me, get me all hot and excited, then disappear without a trace.

With that in mind, I've decided to post a list of BDSM social groups and nightclubs.

If you own or manage such a social group or night club, I invite you to send me your details to be posted on this page.

Your club may be anywhere in the world, though I'm mainly interested in the USA, Canada, and the UK (England, Scotland, Wales, and Ireland).

All that I require to be in this list is that your social group or night club allow new members, allow singles and couples, and have an occasional (at least once a month) open vanilla event that new people can attend.

It doesn't have to be shouted from the rooftops where the event will be held (the details can be provided only upon inquiry, for example), but it must be clear that the meeting is open to any and all interested prospective members.